drinks for a first date?

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  1. Mopar03

    Mopar03 73-9 OT Supporter

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    is going out for a couple drinks at night a good or bad idea for a first date as opposed to the typical action date (bowling, mini golf, etc.) or something else like coffee earlier in the day?

    not just looking for a one night stand...would like this to be the start of something long term :hs:
     
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    Mopar03 73-9 OT Supporter

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    oh, and I'm not an alcoholic that has problems controlling my drinking or anything. I can stop myself before I get completely plastered :o
     
  3. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    I personally would be turned off by the idea. My first thought would be that the guy wanted to get me drunk so he could try to get laid. Then I would wonder if he was a big drinker/alcoholic. I'd also be wondering if this guy thought it would be ok to have a few drinks and then drive me home because I'm not ok with drunk driving. If you want a relationship then you're better off having a real date where you can do something fun together to get to know each other. A drinking date would be better suited for one night stand type things.
     
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    good to know, I was going to throw this idea out tomorrow :o
     
  5. audrey

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    For a 1st date, I think drinks are fine :o
     
  6. Chip Chipperson

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    dont make the girl the activity
     
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    I'd be fine with meeting up for a drink on the first date :hs:. In fact, if it's left up to me to decide, this is usually what I suggest. I just think the atmosphere is so much more laid back than a one-on-one dinner. It's especially fun if you end up somewhere that a good, local band is playing.
     
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    Platinum_Thunder Reliability for life and liberty

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    I actually prefer that there are not drinks envolved. That way whatever happens, alcohol cannot be blamed :o
     
  9. MattThom01

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    go for coffee or somewhere you can get non-alcoholic drinks. I know some people think it's fine to get drinks, but wouldn't you want to get to know the person without the uninhibiting effects of the alcohol? I just think it could complicate things.
     
  10. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    IMO I think it'd a great idea. First dates can be really awkward when it comes to communicating. Drinking usually loosens you up just a little enough. Plus it's a lot more adult than some of the other cheesier "first date" ideas.
     
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    As long as you are both buying your own drinks, I see no reason not too. I might buy a girl ONE BEER. Nothing more on a first date.
     
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    unless she tries to sex you, then that can be the activity.
     
  13. percent

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    Man, fuck what she thinks. Take her out for drinks if you like getting drinks. You'll never know how she will react until you do it. Start with the assumption she is a cool girl who likes the things you like, if she is not, you'll find out soon enough.

    Maybe she is smart enough to judge you by your actions rather than assume drinks = trying to trick me into fucking him. If she isn't, not a big loss in my opinion. And honestly, her being a little nervous, than finding out you are not a creep is even better than her thinking she had you completely figured out (even if she liked what she figured out).

    Or you could just pussyfoot around and end up with a uptight frostybox like this broad below:

    Cunt.
     
  14. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Also a good way to judge if she is an obnoxious drinker. I weed out annoying drunks from my dating pool fast.
     
  15. P7

    P7 You have something on your tongue, let me get that

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    best advise in the thread.
     
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    i dont think its a great idea but hell i dont drink
     
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    i hate that shit
     
  18. aegamemnon

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    drinks are the way to go, easier to bail out for either of you , you can usuallt tell how much a cunt a cunt is in the first 5 minutes
     
  19. SQLee

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    I agree. And to those saying all the bad things about alcohol, hear this: Most adults drink, if the girl doesn't drink at all, then she'll say something and you don't go for a drink. Also, it's not hard to just have a couple of drinks and control yourself.
     
  20. lauren

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    i dont like starting a relationship off with alchohol. sets a bad precedent. i drink, but not until im comfortable in the relationship.
     
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    SQLee The OTer That Cares™

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    You're not comfortable with one or two drinks?
     
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    im uncomfortable starting a precedent where alcohol is associated with a good time.
     
  23. danewreed

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    I'd bring it us as let's go for appetizers. drinks on a first date are fine and I rarely drink myself but one drink does help me relax per say. the key is to see how she acts in a social setting
     
  24. Kinematic9

    Kinematic9 You my caucasian?

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    Im going to say drinks are fine.. I personally would rather go to a nice lounge or a little bar on the beach (if you are lucky enough to live by the ocean) to grab some small, finger foods and some cocktails. Ive noticed a lot of people (especially women) are nervous about eating in front of someone new, so the small appetizer style casual bar setting should be a comfortable thing.

    Id rather do that where you can actually talk to the person over something like the mini golf action type thing.. but thats just my preference.
     
  25. Kylar

    Kylar Just call me Proper

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    I'll admit I mostly lurk, but this shit had me rollin... uptight frosty box :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: I'm gonna have to use that one.
    Great post and its very true. Be yourself or you might end up with someone that doesnt make you happy.
     

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