I feel trapped. About 8 months ago I started dating a girl who I was infatuated with for a little while. She is beatiful and as sweet as they come. After a few weeks, maybe even a few months, I learned lots of things about her which I cannot repeat, but took some time for me to get over. She had a messed up history of issues. I was able to get past this, but sometimes still feel a little weird - overall though, past is past and thats where it stays. Throughout the relationship, we have both agreed we are differant types of people. She admits to being lazy, always late, and forgetfull. She is doing what she says is her best to remedy these issuses. I am always on time, very much a go getter, and I am very busy with work, activities, friends and health and fitness. We love each other, and have amazing chemistry. However, I am starting to go a little crazy with things. If she stays over at my place, she will sleep till 11 or 12 and barely get her day to day stuff done. She has a totally differant lifestyle as far as health and fitness. I excersize everday and I don't eat garbage. She workouts once a week and trys to eat ok, but ends up eating junk food as her meals unless I cook for her (which is a whole other issue). The problem is I feel like I am controlling and fathering her. I call her to wake her up, remind her to do her daily chores, remind her to take her medications. I just feel very resentfull with her a lot of the time. Like I wouldn't stand for this, if I didn' t love her and wanna help her. Last Friday, I decided enough is enough and broke up with her. That night, she came over to get her stuff and broke down and was completely down and out. I couldn't see someone I cared so much for in pain cause of me, so I took her back and said we could try again. SHe has gotten a bit better, but she still needs me to remind her about everything and get her shit togethor. My main issue is if I stop fathering and controlling her day to day, she will without a doubt stop doing the things she needs to do. She will become more lazy and do less. Without me, she would be doing what she did before me, which is serving food at her fathers resteraunt a few times a week, and sleeping and partying the rest. I don't wanna see her like that, but I dunno what else to do other than keep guiding her?