Well, I'll try to keep this as short as possible, but, theres so much going on it might be hard. My BF and I have been together for 1 1/2 years. I moved to knoxville to be with him back in august of 2006. he was still in highschool and said he wanted to move to chicago, where i am from, when he graduates. i didn't want to wait 2 years, so we came to the conclusion i would move to tennessee for 2 years, and then we would move to chicago. alot has happened in the past year. we were dating for about a week, i still lived in illinois, and i had a very PG rated quick fling with an old friend. my BF said hes never been the same since finding out. i told him right away. its been over a year, and he still dwells on it. we get into spats fairly often over really meaningless shit. we're both very stubborn. but, the thing is, he went to a club and met someone, and told me he was moving out and that he loved this person. wtf? talked in a club for an hour and hes in love. anyways.... i found out he's been doubting our relationship for many months, he's been unhappy, and has thought about ending it for a long time. (no idea why he got a tattoo of my initials on his chest like, 3 weeks ago, but w/e). we worked through that and he agreed the person he met was just a "knight in shining armour" type thing, and he said it broke his heart to not be with me, but it didn't break his heart to not be with the other person. so, he said he wanted to give us a chance. he also said from now on, hes not holding back, and hes going to be 100% honest with me. now.... i come to find hes never wanted to move to chicago, he never wants to, and he said in the rare event he did, if he didn't like it after a few weeks, he would break up with me and move back to tennessee. ouch, right? he also said i shouldn't expect him to move for me just because i moved for him. ouch again... considering i only moved to be with him thinking it would only be for 2 years until he graduated. this brings up alot of concerns..... why should i give my life to someone who refuses to do the same? why do i love someone who refuses to compromise? he won't even try it. he "KNOWS" he hates chicago cuz its cold, and he wants to be near friends he sees honestly, only when i go out of town. (3 times a year if that). but, what i don't get, is why i am contemplating leaving him when i honestly love him more than i've ever loved anyone in my life? minus these things, i think hes perfect. physically, sexually, personality, its all exactly what i have been looking for. every time i see him, i think "god his smile is perfect" "his laugh is perfect." "i never want to hear another voice say 'i love you' to me" his body is perfect to a T of what i want. i couldn't create a more perfect body if i was able to. he makes me laugh all the time, we have such a good time together. but, how can i question a relationship i'm so happy in? and, should i end a relationship when i love the person so much? i'm so afraid i'll be throwing the best chance at love i have in my lifetime out the window cuz i want to live in chicago. but, its deeper.... its not so much "chicago" its the fact that i would consider living here for the rest of my life for him.... but, he won't even try to compromise for me. i feel like if i don't sacrafice everything.... he will sacrifice nothing.... and he would rather me go to chicago alone and be happy than stay here with him, OR... him go to chicago with me. so damn confused. i've never thought of ending a relationship when i love the person so much.