LudaMan
Active Member
I've had so much shitty luck in the dating area of my life this last year that I'm on the point of giving up. I broke up with my gf January of last year, and I was really happy. Met up with a girl that I had known from a while back, and hit it off like crazy. Things were going really well for a month, then she started playing games with me (hitting on other guys when we'd be out, accusing me of looking at other girls), so I decided to distance myself from her. I started going out with a couple other girls, but then she came back, and for some reason I tried it again and another week later, I found out from my cousin who works at a bar she goes to a lot that she made out with five other guys that night. Stung a little bit, but I chalked it up to a learning experience and continued with the two other girls.
One of the girls that I was seeing was a ton of fun to be around, low key, my friends loved her, and there was a LOT of chemistry. I started spending a lot of time with her, and a few weeks in, we were official. I had never been happier in a relationship, and it was just easy. She would tell me how happy she was and I'd hear from her friends how happy I made her, we spent a lot of time together. A month in, she told me she loved me, and honestly, I felt it too. We only said that word once, but we just kind of knew.
Two months in the relationship, she all of a sudden dumps me because she felt that I was the only thing that made her happy and she wanted to find herself (whatever that means) and pursue her career in hair, which would include a lot of travel. If you guys watch How I Met Your Mother, it was a complete Marshall and Lily story when Lily when to San Francisco.
Fast forward to now, I'm sleeping with this girl who is friends with my roommates, and she is everything I should want: Sweet, pretty, good with kids (special ed teacher), fun, and easy going, but for some reason, that "X" factor isn't there. I don't know if its because I still think of the last girl, or if it's just because I don't feel it, but it just made me think that I need to take a long time and get my shit together again before I even consider dating. Trying to find someone has been such a big part of my life, and quite frankly, I'm totally sick of searching. I think it's time for a break. Anyone else ever feel like that?
Sorry for the long post, had to vent.
One of the girls that I was seeing was a ton of fun to be around, low key, my friends loved her, and there was a LOT of chemistry. I started spending a lot of time with her, and a few weeks in, we were official. I had never been happier in a relationship, and it was just easy. She would tell me how happy she was and I'd hear from her friends how happy I made her, we spent a lot of time together. A month in, she told me she loved me, and honestly, I felt it too. We only said that word once, but we just kind of knew.
Two months in the relationship, she all of a sudden dumps me because she felt that I was the only thing that made her happy and she wanted to find herself (whatever that means) and pursue her career in hair, which would include a lot of travel. If you guys watch How I Met Your Mother, it was a complete Marshall and Lily story when Lily when to San Francisco.
Fast forward to now, I'm sleeping with this girl who is friends with my roommates, and she is everything I should want: Sweet, pretty, good with kids (special ed teacher), fun, and easy going, but for some reason, that "X" factor isn't there. I don't know if its because I still think of the last girl, or if it's just because I don't feel it, but it just made me think that I need to take a long time and get my shit together again before I even consider dating. Trying to find someone has been such a big part of my life, and quite frankly, I'm totally sick of searching. I think it's time for a break. Anyone else ever feel like that?
Sorry for the long post, had to vent.
