i'm a guy so for any girls just reading this just plug "guy", "he", "his", etc in. i'm not really talking book smarts or "knowledgable". i mean more like top 0.01% in the intelligence department. the kind of cookie that can do a crossword puzzle in her head or out-chess Bobby Fisher. it seems impossible to have a conversation with her. you try to tell a joke, she can usually guess the punchline.. you make a witty comment and either the impact on her was so dull or she saw it coming a mile away. you get the feeling that everything you say is just some version of something she's already heard. the topics she thinks about or brings up seem kinda abstract to you. the saying comes to mind: "Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people"; and you realize that maybe even on the "ideas" level there are many sublevels, and you're not sitting very high. the problem is this difference doesn't seem to be something you can make up for with effort. is it? well.. not that it helps; if you can make yourself dearer to her by trying, you realize that someone on the same intellectual level is probably still gonna be dearer trying by the same amount. maybe you'd have to possess a quality that can't be easily replicated (which is what raw intelligence is anyway), like good looks or an awesome sex drive. or a 6 figure salary. but that seems kind of shallow doesn't it..? is a girl much smarter than you just something you should try to forget about?