SRS Ever felt unhappy? What you do to change that? Anything drastic?

[Mockabelly]

Its not my teeth

Hmmm I dont know, I just realized yesterday Im not happy. Im gonna look for a new job. I ditched the ex that was still lingering. I need to move out, not happy at home. Love my fam but geez almost 30.

 

[Eurbauk]

you must have money saved up?

 

[deadmeat]

What would make you happy?

 

[Sirian]

You can come live with me bro, we'll watch 'rasslin' together.

But srsly, going to need more information on why you aren't happy.

 

[Mockabelly]

just the same routine over and over..fuck. same friends, same room, same job. its a boring job, i work with kids but its the same thing every day!

 

[TopGun113]

just the same routine over and over..fuck. same friends, same room, same job. its a boring job, i work with kids but its the same thing every day!

Push yourself to get out of your comfort zone and interact with more people. Sites like meetup.com can be a place to start or at least give you ideas for new hobbies.

 

[Darketernal]

Life is like a bus ride, if you are unhappy with the direction its going, get off and take a bus that brings you into a direction that you do want to go in.

What you do is find an activity you like to do in life, do it and repeat it next week. Then find another one, up until your entire week is filled with things you love to do. Then you become happy in life. Make sure you dont add people in your life who make you miserable. One of the worst unhappy makers are other people. So make sure you surround yourself with genuine people. If they are no good, send them to hell.

 

[TopGun113]

and maybe read the book Who Moved My Cheese? It'll help get you out of your comfort zone.

 

[Floriderp]

follow your dreams.

once I started setting realistic goals to achieve what I've always wanted to, life got better

 

[Kurt]

A strong belief in religion, helping others without sense of reward, and being kind to all around me have given me my source of happiness. Perhaps the same will work for you.

 

[deusexaethera]

A healthy concept of selflessness does help, yes. I remember when a thought popped into my head out of nowhere that I should do things for people because I could, not because they'd owe me favors in return. No longer expecting to get paid back for my generosity made it a lot easier to decide what effort/money/stuff I could really afford to give away, and it made the occasional gesture of kindness in return feel rewarding instead of merely expected.

However, if the TS thinks that a lack of personal space is causing him distress, he should fix that first, since he's already identified it as an issue.

 

[Spiritus]

Yes - "happiness" has it's organic and flesh based roots as well as it's emotional, mental components.

To eat healthy - to make sure we get enough vitamins - to exercise and stimulate the glands to work to produce vital hormones - to intake omega fatty acids or the chia seed - these are great foundations to a more content and satisfied mood.

The real cause of your discontent though, has been and always will be... desire.

 

[bimmer318]

Yes. That's pretty much my life.

Parents immigrated to Canada from Europe when I was 10. At that time I was still pretty fascinated with the US and traveled there a lot. I never had many friends or meaningful relationships because I felt I needed to be in the right place in my life for these things to happen. I know this is the wrong mindset to have but hear me out.

After finishing college in Canada, I lost touch with people I met there because they moved to the US and other parts of the world.

I realized I had to make some changes as I was unhappy. I moved from Toronto to Montreal, and live in Montreal for 2 years. It was a very fun party/college experience. However, as far as laying down roots here I found this place too socialist and too secular with its French language laws. Not to mention quite horrible winters and lack of any opportunity. As a result I decided to move when my lease is up.

I feel at 25 I can't afford to lose time and be unhappy. I am planning on moving to California with a few grand in my pocket and my car to take me there.

Most of you guys are American already so I don't think you can relate to my situation. If you can, I'd love to hear it.

 

[tenxia]

and maybe read the book Who Moved My Cheese? It'll help get you out of your comfort zone.

I second this. Short but great and helpful read.

 

[tenxia]

Yes. That's pretty much my life.

Parents immigrated to Canada from Europe when I was 10. At that time I was still pretty fascinated with the US and traveled there a lot. I never had many friends or meaningful relationships because I felt I needed to be in the right place in my life for these things to happen. I know this is the wrong mindset to have but hear me out.

After finishing college in Canada, I lost touch with people I met there because they moved to the US and other parts of the world.

I realized I had to make some changes as I was unhappy. I moved from Toronto to Montreal, and live in Montreal for 2 years. It was a very fun party/college experience. However, as far as laying down roots here I found this place too socialist and too secular with its French language laws. Not to mention quite horrible winters and lack of any opportunity. As a result I decided to move when my lease is up.

I feel at 25 I can't afford to lose time and be unhappy. I am planning on moving to California with a few grand in my pocket and my car to take me there.

Most of you guys are American already so I don't think you can relate to my situation. If you can, I'd love to hear it.

Do you need some type of work visa? Is it easy to just find a random job in California, being Canadian and doing what you are doing?

 

[tidalxwave]

Changing your eating and work-out habits would be important to start with.

 

[bimmer318]

Do you need some type of work visa? Is it easy to just find a random job in California, being Canadian and doing what you are doing?

Yes I do need a work visa, but since my job is on the NAFTA list it is relatively easy to obtain. In addition, the market is really huge in California. California's population is larger than all of Canada, meaning, recession or prosperity, Canada will never offer me the opportunity I want.

I have been through so much already, including working and living in Quebec (which was a nightmare to say the least). So I am actually looking forward to it

 

[jfelix]

I feel the same way about routine. Shit gets to me once and awhile and I'm only 26. Have to keep trying new things/hobbies travel if possible. Just getting out of my city and taking short trips somewhere always make me feel better. Anything to break the routine. Would say try meeting new people but its alot easier said than done.


Good luck to you Bimmer318. California is a cool place but the economy is rough there and as my cousin describes LA "city of broken dreams" but she works in TV/Film there so she see's all the people with high hopes of being actors/actresses. But at least in the states hard work can take you further than it would in Canada.

 

[bimmer318]

Hey thanks felix. I have a education and I started my Career in Canada already so I am not going to be meshing with the actor types much.

A lot of Canadians I simply do not see eye-to-eye with, so yeah I agree with the making friends thing. And how are you supposed to go for drives when its -5 for 3 months and nothing around to see. Not to mention Toronto's ridiculously high gas prices and car insurance rates.

Anyway, it would be a really long anti-Canada rant if I got started. lol