So I dated this girl for almost a year, but she got kinda clingy and wouldnt let me do my own thing. I really liked her, could have developed into more I think but the timing just wasnt right. I was 18-19 and wanted to go out with my friends and make bad decisions, but she didnt want to make the same bad decisions so we broke it off and that was that. She started dating an old friend of mine who happens to be a loser to the fullest. He is into drugs and in turn she got into drugs, then she ended up pregnant. They had been together for probably 10 months or less when she found out she was pregnant but decided to keep the baby. They were going to move in together and i guess start a family? Well she miscarried and they broke up. Now a month after they break up, she has been wanting to hang out with me alot lately. She texts or calls me atleast once a day, I dont reject the calls or texts because obviously I like hanging out and talking to her also. Well, last night we went out to some bar and ended up talking in the car quite a bit. She is insistant that she has feelings for me, but she wants to keep it strictly friends. Thats fine with me, but something tells me thats not really what she wants. I feel like she is saying that because she still might have some attachment to her exboyfriend and doesnt want to rush into anything, which is a respectable thing IMO. So even after a year apart and talking maybe a total of 3 times I hang out with the girl a few times and talk to her for a few weeks and I feel very strongly towards her. Now here is the kicker, this girl has some serious problems. She was raped at the age of 16(i was the first person she had ever told about it) Her dad lives out in california and rarely talks to her even during the holidays or her birthday. She is extremely self concious and has no confidence, she will rarely look at me when we are talking. My question is to the asylum is, do you think she is trying to turn her life around and having a decent guy with a good head on his shoulders and a good job would help? or do you think she will just keep all the habits and inevitably take me down with her?