So, question for you ladies. I went off the pill about a year and a half ago and got an IUD; my main concern was sex drive (or lack thereof). Fast forward to now and I honestly don't think I've noticed a difference. I'm finding out that arousal is just mainly mental for me and I'm just wound too tight most of the time and need to come home and relax. I'm also finding this relates a lot to sex and kink; it's a lot easier for me to get aroused when it's sliding over into D/s than just "oh hey it's the weekend let's fuck", and I think it has to do with the mental "game" as it were. Rambling way of asking for all you lovelies' input what BC do you use? How do you feel about sex drive and the mental portion of kink?