Falling in love

Discussion in 'Vaginarium' started by Princessadmirable, Feb 18, 2005.

  1. It is a mystery why we fall in love.
    It is a mystery how it happens.
    It is a mystery when it comes.
    It is a mystery why some love grows and it is a mystery why
    some love fails.

    You will never do anymore than take the life out of the experience.
    Just as life itself is more than the sum of the bones and muscles and electrical impulses in the body, love is more than the sum of the interests and attractions and commonalties that two people share.
    And just as life itself is a gift that comes and goes in its own time, so too, the coming and going of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that cannot be questioned in its ways.
    Sometimes, hopefully at least once in your life - the gift of love will come to you in full flower, and you will take hold of it and celebrate it in all inexpressible beauty. This is a dream we all share.
    More often,it will come and take hold of you, celebrate you
    for a brief moment, then move on.

    When this happens to young people, they too often try to grasp the love and hold it to them, refusing to see that it is a gift that is freely given and a gift that just as freely, moves away. When they fall out of love, or the person they love feels the spirit of love leaving,they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost rather than accepting the gift for what it was, then moving on.

    They want answers where there are no answers. They want to know what is wrong in them that makes the other person no longer love them, or they try to get their lover to change, thinking that if some small things were different, love would bloom again.
    They blame their circumstances and say that if they go far away and start a new life together, their love will grow. They try anything to give meaning to what has happened. But there is no meaning beyond the love itself, and until they accept its own mysterious ways, they live in a sea of misery.

    You need to know this about love, and to accept it. You need to treat what it brings you with kindness. If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart.

    If you find someone else in love with you and you don't love him, feel honoured that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage; do not cause pain.
    How you deal with love is how you deal with you, and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different.

    If you fall in love with another, and he falls in love with you,
    and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame.
    Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning.
    You will know in time.

    Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life.
    Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away.
    Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you.
    Give it to others who deem poor in spirit.
    Give it to the world around you in anyway you can.

    This is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them.

    The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as a need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love.
    hey forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and
    that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.
    Remember this, and keep it to your heart..

    Love has its own time, its own seasons, and its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying.
    You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you. But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do.

    Love always had been and always will be a mystery.
    Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.
    If you keep your heart open it will come again.

  2. the ground folds

    the ground folds rest your trigger on my finger

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  3. JumboJym69

    JumboJym69 New Member

    May 14, 2004
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    That is really amazing, the first girl I've ever really loved just left me and just about every feeling I have expereiced is in here. I just want to say thanks for posting that because reading it really did help me think/deal with a lot of things and change the way I look at things.
  4. bella189

    bella189 Guest

    wow, thanks very much for posting that.. im glad i took the time to read it.. it does mean alot and it does make you think

  5. sexhaver420

    sexhaver420 Buying stuff I don't need, with money I don't have OT Supporter

    Jul 18, 2004
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    no thanks.

    BlMMERGUY New Member

    Nov 18, 2004
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    love is growing as an individual from someone else. damn i should be a DR for that one
  7. Original

    Original OT Supporter

    Jun 21, 2004
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    Much thanks to that post. I now understand how I can be a better person and now worry about love's course. It definitely is uncontrollable and lots of people still can't understand that. Recommended read :hs:
  8. 4 Leaf Clover

    4 Leaf Clover New Member

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  9. SWTNLOW37

    SWTNLOW37 New Member

    Feb 15, 2005
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    Cedar Rapids, Iowa but originally from Europe
    I wrote this a few years back and have remembered these things ever since. Hope it will add to the great words that Princess originally stated:

    Love, the most misused, abused and misunderstood word. Real love is rare and a thing of great beauty. Though it cannot b seen. I am reminded of this everytime I hear about "chemistry", about physical attraction and "love at first sight". Love doesnt care whether you're rich or poor, but it requires that one be generous about giving and sharing it. It can b found in a hovel or lost in a castle, but it cannot be bought. Love can be easily overlooked even when its said to be sought.

    Love doesnt care about the past, ignores the skeletons in the closet. Striving for a better future, love animates and rejuvenates those it infects. It believes that not only one should not be held accountable, but rather two. Forgives all past mistakes and instead judges one only on the future decisions one makes.

    Love is blind. You cant make another see it, but still you try! never so obvious as the breaking of dawn. You see it not with your eyes, but with an open mind. And it can be stealthy, creeping up on you from behind. Should love find you in this way, its the most wonderful kind.
    Anaesthetic but not esthetic, love is morphine to those in pain. It overwhelms any discomfort and lights the path in the night. Yet it can also cause more pain than one can endure. Love can expire. Especially when it gives itself profusely but is returned, hence an unfulfilled desire.

    What exactly does love mean? Its difficult to define. Love doesnt mean your compatible or have everything in common. It wont try to change you into something that can be loved even more. Love appreciates you just the way you are and everything you stand for. Love wont die when the outer shell of phyiscal beauty cracks. It doesnt care what others think or say. It bravely faces all adversity. It stops at nothing to promote itself and proves itself time and time again.

    In details remembered, neds fulfulled, private thoughts shared and a good alught now and then. Love gazes longingly into your eyes, hoping to see its REFLECTION...
  10. getoffofit

    getoffofit New Member

    Feb 23, 2005
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    Thanks for that..

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