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Syntax: What has you so convinced that she has BPD? Are you basing this on an assumption that stems from particular character traits? She could very well not have BPD. Has she had psychological testing done indicating she is BPD?
 

poweraid

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Syntax: What has you so convinced that she has BPD? Are you basing this on an assumption that stems from particular character traits? She could very well not have BPD. Has she had psychological testing done indicating she is BPD?
BPD is a bullshit term anyways

crazy, lying bitches are all "BPD"
 

saabguy

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Not like you need more piling on, but after 1 year, you were with this chick trying to detox at the family ranch in Colorado???

And exactly how financially wrecked are you? We could trade war stories, I'm sure. My BPD ex wasn't a druggie, and didn't stomp balls for a living, but:

- we were married
- have a 3 year old
- I left my family, friends, career behind to move closer to her family.
- it was all a plot to move me away then divorce
- I took a $100k paycut to make the move, "for our family", now find myself away from my family, only seeing my grandparents maybe 2x per year (they're in their 80's and cry because their great grand-daughter was essentially kidnapped and barely in their lives), divorced, and broke from court and life expenses.

Actually, i wouldn't mind being broke. Maybe in a year or so I can improve my situation to only being broke. I've got about $40k in credit card debt, another $10k on a personal loan,.and owe my lawyer probably another $13k. Already paid him close to $20k. All stemming from this bullshit move.

You want to talk BPD? Have your wife wake up angry at you because she had a dream you were cheating on her with someone named "Victoria". Then have her sneak out of the room with your phone so she can check the address book for someone by that name. Then defend attacks of infidelity when she finds a "Vicky" who is a shitty realtor on my email marketing distribution list. Get in a blowout fight, leave, then come back and see her crying in the corner and apologizing because "I'm just afraid and scared you're going to leave me".

Moral of the story?

FUCK BITCHES.
 
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syntax

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Nov 1, 2001
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randomly ran into her huh :ugh2:

I did not randomly run into her, I randomly ran into her brother, who told her I was in town, then she spent the next fews days claiming I was stalking her, while she drove around and looked for me. She did find out I was filing a police report and came looking for me in that general small area of town, Then she found me at a gas station. I will post the video and text log and call logs so it all makes sense.
 
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syntax

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Nov 1, 2001
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Not like you need more piling on, but after 1 year, you were with this chick trying to detox at the family ranch in Colorado???

And exactly how financially wrecked are you? We could trade war stories, I'm sure. My BPD ex wasn't a druggie, and didn't stomp balls for a living, but:

- we were married
- have a 3 year old
- I left my family, friends, career behind to move closer to her family.
- it was all a plot to move me away then divorce
- I took a $100k paycut to make the move, "for our family", now find myself away from my family, only seeing my grandparents maybe 2x per year (they're in their 80's and cry because their great grand-daughter was essentially kidnapped and barely in their lives), divorced, and broke from court and life expenses.

Actually, i wouldn't mind being broke. Maybe in a year or so I can improve my situation to only being broke. I've got about $40k in credit card debt, another $10k on a personal loan,.and owe my lawyer probably another $13k. Already paid him close to $20k. All stemming from this bullshit move.

You want to talk BPD? Have your wife wake up angry at you because she had a dream you were cheating on her with someone named "Victoria". Then have her sneak out of the room with your phone so she can check the address book for someone by that name. Then defend attacks of infidelity when she finds a "Vicky" who is a shitty realtor on my email marketing distribution list. Get in a blowout fight, leave, then come back and see her crying in the corner and apologizing because "I'm just afraid and scared you're going to leave me".

Moral of the story?

FUCK BITCHES.

Yep, that is very classic BPD behavior. Been on the random outburst accusations of cheating receiving end, ending in being attacked with a knife. (usually means the are cheating, see; projection) Everyone likes to call all crazy women BPD but Borderline Personality Disorder is a very real mental illness that cripples the sufferer and those closest to them (usually her) from every having a normal life. I am very sorry you had to experience because loving someone who suffers from BPD is emotionally devastating to the "non"
 

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Jun 17, 2001
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I did not randomly run into her, I randomly ran into her brother, who told her I was in town, then she spent the next fews days claiming I was stalking her, while she drove around and looked for me. She did find out I was filing a police report and came looking for me in that general small area of town, Then she found me at a gas station. I will post the video and text log and call logs so it all makes sense.
I guess what we're saying is, of all the places you choose to visit, it's her ratty little shithole of a town out in bumfuck nowhere where you're almost certain to run into someone she knows. It's like you put yourself into the situation hoping that she would find out and seek you out. I guess you just didn't think it would escalate to shit with the cops again. But you know what they say about trying the same shit and expecting different results... :o
 
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syntax

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Nov 1, 2001
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I guess what we're saying is, of all the places you choose to visit, it's her ratty little shithole of a town out in bumfuck nowhere where you're almost certain to run into someone she knows. It's like you put yourself into the situation hoping that she would find out and seek you out. I guess you just didn't think it would escalate to shit with the cops again. But you know what they say about trying the same shit and expecting different results... :o

I get it, pretty stupid on my part actually, but I thought I could get away with it. I really at no point wanted to see her or communicate with her. I mean its a small town, but NOT that small of a town.
 

bmwmon

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Feb 18, 2004
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I get it, pretty stupid on my part actually, but I thought I could get away with it. I really at no point wanted to see her or communicate with her. I mean its a small town, but NOT that small of a town.


Population. 12,000
No you didn't. You went there for the drama. Don't keep bullshitting yourself.
 

bmwmon

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Feb 18, 2004
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I think you are sicker than she is. In fact, I think she might be fine. She's just a whore doing whatever she can get away with. She hasn't reached out to you, and you needed a fix. Why else would you ever go there?
 
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syntax

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I think you are sicker than she is. In fact, I think she might be fine. She's just a whore doing whatever she can get away with. She hasn't reached out to you, and you needed a fix. Why else would you ever go there?

Actually she had text ed and called me several times over the last 6 months, I've ignored every attempt and maintained no contact, for my own mental health. I went to SB to see a DIFF crazy chick and a few friends I made that don't know Olive, and to see my old stomping ground since I was in Denver anyway. When she found out I was there she called me no less than 30 times and I denied every call and ignored every text, no, I don't need a "fix" of any kind from her, I've seen enough.
 

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Feb 18, 2004
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I get it, pretty stupid on my part actually, but I thought I could get away with it. I really at no point wanted to see her or communicate with her. I mean its a small town, but NOT that small of a town.

there are literally thousands of towns and you HAD to pick that one?
 

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Jun 17, 2001
40,178
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there are literally thousands of towns and you HAD to pick that one?
:roflw:

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Of all the shit holes in all the flyover states in all the country... Nope, he went to meet a different psychotic bitch :hsugh: I'd seriously think you were trolling if you weren't so forthcoming with the photoproofs and etc. Unless this is all some deep, elaborate ruse and you're actually just the group AE of a collective bunch of sickfuck OTers, including a cop and an OP that apparently does some crazy porn :squint:
 

saabguy

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Yep, that is very classic BPD behavior. Been on the random outburst accusations of cheating receiving end, ending in being attacked with a knife. (usually means the are cheating, see; projection) Everyone likes to call all crazy women BPD but Borderline Personality Disorder is a very real mental illness that cripples the sufferer and those closest to them (usually her) from every having a normal life. I am very sorry you had to experience because loving someone who suffers from BPD is emotionally devastating to the "non"

I went to see a therapist for about 6 months. At first, therapist asked me why I was seeking help, if she was the one having trouble? Eventually, I would explain it like this:

Michelle life is like an Evel Kinevel stun, or a roller coaster. There's fast and fun times, then scary and dangerous times. Filled with ups and downs, one minute she's laughing, the next it's screaming in terror. That may need HER life, but guess who is strapped into the roller coaster cart next to her and who can't escape? Guess who's in Evel's motorcycle side-car, trapped with no place to go as she's launching you both over 47 flaming school busses?


You want to talk about a punch in the gut? I know heroin is bad, but try sitting there in court, listening to the person you've given up everything for to try and make happy, completely make up stories and tell the court official that "he has no involvement or bond with his daughter" in an attempt to get sole custody.

She sat there and told the court social worker that I always worked late and never came home in time to even help put our infant daughter to bed. I leaned across the table, looked at her in the eye and said "MICHELLE, WE USED TO CARPOOL TO AND FROM WORK."
 

saabguy

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Actually she had text ed and called me several times over the last 6 months, I've ignored every attempt and maintained no contact, for my own mental health. I went to SB to see a DIFF crazy chick and a few friends I made that don't know Olive, and to see my old stomping ground since I was in Denver anyway. When she found out I was there she called me no less than 30 times and I denied every call and ignored every text, no, I don't need a "fix" of any kind from her, I've seen enough.

Why even take a chance? Isn't SB like 14 hours away? Get her and everything associated with her out of your life completely. The sooner the better. If a friend says he won tickets and lodging to a ski resort in SB, politely decline. Ultimately you don't want her to have any impact on your life or decisions, but I think going there is poking the hornets nest. Maybe you were thinking "SHE CAN'T CONTROL ME, I'LL DO WHAT I WANT." but the only reason you went was to prove that you can do it...so she's in a way still very much part of your life and decision making process.
 
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syntax

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Why even take a chance? Isn't SB like 14 hours away? Get her and everything associated with her out of your life completely. The sooner the better. If a friend says he won tickets and lodging to a ski resort in SB, politely decline. Ultimately you don't want her to have any impact on your life or decisions, but I think going there is poking the hornets nest. Maybe you were thinking "SHE CAN'T CONTROL ME, I'LL DO WHAT I WANT." but the only reason you went was to prove that you can do it...so she's in a way still very much part of your life and decision making process.

exceedingly true statement, it's only 2 hours away from Denver, and I shouldn't have gone.
 
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syntax

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I went to see a therapist for about 6 months. At first, therapist asked me why I was seeking help, if she was the one having trouble? Eventually, I would explain it like this:

Michelle life is like an Evel Kinevel stun, or a roller coaster. There's fast and fun times, then scary and dangerous times. Filled with ups and downs, one minute she's laughing, the next it's screaming in terror. That may need HER life, but guess who is strapped into the roller coaster cart next to her and who can't escape? Guess who's in Evel's motorcycle side-car, trapped with no place to go as she's launching you both over 47 flaming school busses?


You want to talk about a punch in the gut? I know heroin is bad, but try sitting there in court, listening to the person you've given up everything for to try and make happy, completely make up stories and tell the court official that "he has no involvement or bond with his daughter" in an attempt to get sole custody.

She sat there and told the court social worker that I always worked late and never came home in time to even help put our infant daughter to bed. I leaned across the table, looked at her in the eye and said "MICHELLE, WE USED TO CARPOOL TO AND FROM WORK."

The lies they are capable of telling are amazing, the disorder is so deeply ingrained shes probably not even sure of she is lying, they alter reality to fit their needs, whatever they are feeling = facts to them at the moment, all the time, money, tears, marriage, carpooling, daughters in the world do not matter if at that particular moment you are their enemy. And if you are trying to dismantle, or shine light on the truth of the situation you are their mortal enemy because you are deconstructing the wall of lies they have built to protect themselves. I couldn't imagine being in court and dealing with your BPD wife, knowing she is lying to try to hurt you/protect herself. I gave up a business for Olive, alot of my friends and the trust of my parents, and she hates me, without cause. She stood right at the gas station and told a cop I hit her while looking at me and calling me a douchebag, a complete fabrication of the truth. This is a woman I shared a bed with for 3 years, took care of, never layed an angry hand on, hardly ever raised my voice, supported her and trusted her, but all that does not matter. They love without measure, those whom they will soon hate without reason.
 

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