Yeah, yeah, I know..... BAD BAD BAD idea. But I am just curious how many of you have been successful in maintaining a friendship with your ex? I know a few people that have done it, but most say it is really hard to work out. As a quick background, me and my ex were friends for a few months before getting together and then we dated for ~ 6 years. We were both kinda unsure what we wanted, and she ended it which kinda destroyed me a bit. We have a really great connection and we can both benefit from a friendship I think, but I am not sure how practical this is. We have been broken up ~ 2 months and see each other once a week or so to hang out. At first it was REALLY hard, but it has gotten progressively easier... but still not "easy. We are still close with one another, but our lives are moving in different directions and she has become a different person which makes it all kinda wierd. I wasn't going to do the friends thing, but we had a couple talks and agreed that if we both worked hard we could both benefit since we were together so long as a couple. At one point in the beginning I was going to end the friendship because it was hard on me, but the next day she got really sick and it was ME that saved her life... literally. She likely would have died if I was not there when she called. I took that as a sign from God that maybe we should still try to maintain contact in one anothers lives. I know a couple people that successfully maintained friendships for years after their breakup. Each person says it is really hard, but sometimes worth it in the end to keep that person in your life... but in a different way.