CLIFFS: Girl coworker (waitress) flirts with me, we've hung out a few times, I've kissed her every date, and had accidental drunken sex with her once, which she doesn't regret. She seems still interested, as she pursues me at work and touches me frequently. I'm lost on how to go from this stage to a relationship. /CLIFFS I'm long-winded. Sorry: Transitioning from kissing to dating is my weak point, for sure. All my past relationships pretty much skipped the build-up to exclusive status because I, to put it both bluntly and truthfully, was desperate and so were my girlfriends. In the years following, I've lost the desperation, come to respect myself, and am working on being a more sexually confident person. However, like I said, I have exactly zero experience in the early stages of relationship building. I know how to come off as attractive and confident, while not being full of myself and being good to her. I know to kiss her asap so she knows I don't need more friends (already did this, and we make out at some point every time we hang out alone). I don't know, however, how to retain that interest and build it to the point where she wants a relationship with me. Furthermore, I don't know how to initiate an exclusive relationship. Do I just say something along the lines of, "I like what I know about you so far, and I'd like us to be more than just make-out buddies" ? To me, saying this aloud, I'm torn between and , so I know something's off, but I have absolutely no clue how someone would go about this. Halp?