I live in a fairly large city in Canada with >1 000 000. We have, I think, 4 gay bars. And I see the same people all the time at most of the local gay "events". And I don't even go to the gay bars that much, as I basically despise the motives of everyone there - to me, it feels like a giant meat market. Which leads me to my point.... I'm 27. My best gay friend and his boyfriend are splitting up - after 7 years (they are the same age as I). One of the reasons is that he "wants to explore other options". Basically he wants to fuck other guys. Is this as rampat as I think it is in gay world? Where do you guys meet other gay people who AREN'T sluts. I'm sick and tired of slutdom. Hell, if a guy tries to sleep with me on our first date, I generally avoid having a relationship with him. My last boyfriend, we didn't have sex until like the third week we were going out. It's not that I like taking things slow or anything, there WERE other reasons (he picked something up from his ex), but I just prefer to err on the side of caution. I don't know, this is turning into a bit of a rant. Waht do you all think? How many of you are in a stable relationship. How many of you WANT to be in a stable relationship, and how many of you just want to fuck as often as possible?