I have a friend who is straight that says any man that lets another man suck his dick is gay. I told him he is wrong, that the man sucking the man's dick is the gay one. He also said any man that fucks another man in the ass is gay and I said it would depend on two factors. 1 Why is he doing this, does he seek guys out to fuck or did it just happen once and never again. If the first is the case then yes he is considered by the ga community to be a "top" which means he fucks not gets fucked and he is gay. If the second is the case then no he has a gay friend and his friend tells him if he is horny enough that he needs to fuck that he could do that to him or he got really drunk with a friend who was gay and the next he knew he was pounding his ass for all it' worth. Any way if the second item was the case then no he wouldn't be considered gay. I am posting this because I want OT's opinion on whether you agree with me or my straight friend and please tell why you agree with him or I respectively. Thanks.