Hi everyone. The reason i'm coming here is because I find that the relationship advice i get from this forum is better than anywhere else i've found. My question is about getting an ex-girlfriend back. A little backround: I was with this girl for 1 year and 2 months. It was my first relationship and I made a lot of asshole mistakes with her. It took me like 6-7 months before I meet her family and allowed her to meet mine. She saw past all this crap and still loved me and stayed with me. Eventually I introduced her to everyone and I met her family and all was well. Then I made the next problem. I started being an immature prick. I would be extremely nice to her, then I would be immature and piss her off and I wouldn't stop no matter how many times she would warn me that she's getting sick of it. We talked about how much we loved each other like crazy and we started talking about spending the rest of our lives together. I guess I started taking her for granted. Well then she broke up with me because of the immaturity bullshit. The breakup happened about 1 month ago. I came here and asked about advice to get her back. I was told to wait at least a month before talking to her again. Foolishly, I let me emotions get the best of me and I contacted her several times telling her I still love her and asking her if she would consider giving me another shot. She never said "no", she would just keep saying that I really need to lay off right now and give her space and time. Last time I talked to her was thursday through text and we started out just friendly talk. Eventually I asked her if she wanted to get together to which she replied, "I really wish you would take it there". After I proded her a little more she told me she has started dating someone new and that she really likes him and she doesn't think she is going to dump him anytime soon. Friday I went in for surgery and I called her when I woke up and she wouldn't even give me the time of day. I was in a lot of pain and I just wanted to hear her voice to sooth me somewhat but she wouldn't even talk to me. I know most of you will say "its over move on". I've honestly changed though. The surgery cured a big problem for me and that alone has changed my outlook on life. Her leaving me was a wake up call that I have to treat a woman right if I want her to stick around. I've been out and about and i've talked to other girls. I'm definitley not ready to start a new relationship since every time I even begin flirting with a girl I get nervous and start worrying about falling in love and getting hurt again. Plus I compare these other girls to her and they just don't stack up. They don't seem as sweet/considerate. One of them did, but she was about 4 years younger than me so she is out of the question (i'm 20). I want this girl back. I'm don't want to pressure her to love me again. I just want to go out and grab some dinner or something and want her to see the new me and maybe we can start our relationship back up if I can show her that I really have changed. How should I go about doing this? I don't think she is really into this new guy. She said she's dated him before so maybe she is just using him as a rebound. She told me about her ex's and none of her previous relationships lasted even longer than 5 months. So I want her back. I can't talk to her right now because I know she isn't going to listen or agree to give me another shot. What should I do? How should I go about this?