So I've been thinking about this lately. Is yelling necessary? Is failing to get angry bad? I'm one of those "take a deep breath and calm down" sort of people. Even if I'm angry I will try to express myself as calmly and reasonably as possibly. My problem is then later on when you hear "I had no idea it bothered you so much" or worse,"no... you never told me that." Is staying calm doing yourself a disservice? Maybe only with people who get angry? If someone never laughed at my jokes, but said "man, that was funny" I would think that they don't find my funny in the slightest. So maybe if you don't yell and get angry, someone might think not very upset/this isnt serious. expanding on this, I think its relative. I think two calm people would understand each other, or two rageaholics, but when you have one emotionally volatile person and another emotionally much less volatile person, I think the volatile person sees reality through their own experiences and personality. They might see a situation and think "This person is frowning and saying that they very much do not like something. for me a frown and a calm voice means im at a 2/11 possible angry, that means I havnt started screaming, which i do when im mad, or throwing things which i do when im more then mad, or going apeshit which is what i do when im really really mad, so that probably means that they are about a 2 on the mad scale: somewhat annoyed. if the calm person never yells the visibly agitated person might take a very long time to figure it out, or never really figure it out. anyone? Anyone ever decided to start yelling, not because you personally feel the need, but just because you want to make sure someone gets the point?