Long story short, my GF was extremely depressed abtt a year back, before I was dating her or even knew her, and she used to cut herself. We've talked about the subject matter many times and everytime she refuses to see cutting herself as extremely selfish. She doesn't do it anymore, thank god, but the subject comes up a lot as she does have scars all over and up her right arm (shes left handed). She persistantly tells me that because I haven't done it, that I do not know what kind of a release it is. I tell her it is just an escape, and a wrong one to take at that. I say I've seen my friends do it, and it doens't fix anything. If it did, why do people continue to cut themselves. She seems to think that it was ok that she cut herself and that cutting herself made her a better person. I keep telling her, no, it didn't. Cutting yourself just gave you scars of which it is easier to remember emotional wounds. The scars on her arm serve as reminder of what she was going through at the time. What is the point? I tell her that it is selfish because it forces everyone that cares about her to worry about her.. and I tell her that I don't want to have her death on my mind, or her self mutilation on my mind because it makes me feel like shit. Then she calls me selfish. So I tell her that yes, to a certain degree, I am being selfish as is everyone on the world. She, however, is being more selfish in disregarding the feelings of others while she goes about her self mutilation. She doens't cut anymore, but I fear that people do not fundamentally changed, and she seems convinved that cutting solved her problems, which I am sure it didn't. It just took her mind of them for a while... thats all. A temporary placebo. I am afraid shje might fall into that self destructive spiral again should anything significantly upset her, and I worry about it everyday. I care for her more then anything else in the world, and being my best friend to being my girl friend only reiterates the fact that I love her and I would hate to see anything terrible happen to her. Have any of you had any problems with cutting, or with gf's/bf's or friends cutting?