I've been dating this girl for a little over a month and as much as I tried to kept it gradual, we kind of quickly became infatuated with each other and tore off our clothes about 2 weeks into it. The fact that I was on a 3yr dryspell didn't help, or the fact that she is very good looking and used to be a gymnast. She said something about her having second thoughts about having sex with me, but I got it on with her before she could even think about it again. Yesterday in the car she told me that she can't be intimate with me today... I asked her wtf and she told me she wants to bring it down a notch. I immediately told her that if she thinks of me as a friend. I'm leaving her car and not seeing her ever again, cause I have enough friends. She said, no, and that she wants to talk to me at my place. We got to my place and basically she said that she needs more time to make a decision. She can't be my friend, cause we're waaay past that, but she definitely can't be my gf yet (not that I want her to either). So her justification was that since she's been out of the relationship for 3 months only and since she learned so much about herself in those 3 months, she needs a little more time. We're still going to be dating, it's just it won't go past kissing. What bugs me is that she doesn't know how long she'll have to think about this, and what her decision will be. I was honest, completely, yesterday, and told her that this summer was really good and I really see her make a positive decision. I'm staying optimistic...So i'll wait. I don't know how long I should (or can) wait...or what to do. We both have never been in this situation, so it's weird, yet I think we handled it somewhat maturely. When I hinted if she has anyone else, she picked it up and assured me that i'm the only one she's seeing and she really likes me, and that she just needs time. As much as we didn't give each other labels, we kinda have been acting like a bf/gf. I find it a little odd, to go all the way, and then cutting yourself off like that. I'm not sure. sexually we're both very compatible. turn each other on like a fucking switch. However, that is being put on hold. I dunno, advise...or question.