Discussion in 'Vaginarium' started by worth, Jun 22, 2008.
She hasn't done that in 1.5 years.
She's having drinks with some old high school friend... I call her and she called me James twice.
Wish I wasn't feeling so pussy/lack confidence tonight.
yeahh... i hate being called by my first name by pretty much everyone. hence the reason i have just about 23483208 nicknames
it usually means a) something reeeally bad happened or b) another serious conversation is about to take place.
Is it weird that I'm thrown off by it? Should I just not give a shit?
I called her out on it, asked her why she's calling me by my first name, and she said sorry? Ugh...
oh you definitely should care! was she out with a male high school friend? if the answer's yes, and she normally calls you something else [i.e. pet name], something's fishy.
i'd call her out on it.
She's cheating on you with 5 black guys
I think you should find out what sex she was with, but it's entirely possible that she was drunk, or they had just been taking about you so she was used to using your name. Maybe she was annoyed at you when you called - thought you were checking up or something.
Don't flip out about it yet. Talk to her calmly and see what her explanation is first.
This is really that big a deal????
Eh, I guess it depends on who she was with....my bf rarely calls me by my first name so when he does, I usually notice. I dont think its anything to get all worked up over though, unless she was with some unsavory characters.
Weird. I call my bf by his first name all the time....
So I guess you guys arent honey/baby/sweetie people? No nicknames/petnames?
He calls me babe a lot and I guess I call him that pretty often, but rarely in public.
I'm pretty positive when I'm out with friends and he calls (if I even say his name in the first place) I'll address him by his first name.
I mean I get what everyone is saying, I just don't think it's the kind of thing to flip the fuck out over. Seems the TS has some trust issues....
No, I think "flipping the fuck out" would be an overreaction, but being curious wouldnt be a bad thing, especially if its way out of her character/normal habits to do so.
hey at least it was your name and not someone elses.
I honestly have to think if this is serious or if this is a trolling attempt.
if the friend wasn't male, then who knows why she did it.
but if it was a male, my radar would go off.
i came in here to post this.
it was really weird when i was with my ex to hear her say my name.
i've gotten used to it now though (shrug)
she never calls him by his first name, only time she does it is with another male that hasn't seen her in some time (doesn't know that she's "involved") i think it actually says a lot.
My point was he was probably already wary of this meeting before she went....then the one time she addresses him by his first name he freaks out and jumps to conclusions.
My bf calls me "babe" so much you'd think it was my first name sometimes, but if he was out with an old friend, even if she happened to be a girl, I would probably not even notice that he said my first name. I trust him
The fact that he then pointed it out to her and she was just confused and apologized shows she probably didn't even realize it. Just doesn't sound very sane to base fidelity off your SO calling you a pet name while out with the opposite sex.
I'm still confused at the whole "People never call me by my name" thing.
Oh well. Better question. Why is your gf out drinking with other guys? it may come across as me being jealous, but I find it odd that your SO would be out drinking with other guys without you present.
It's just not a good situation to put yourself into. Would she be cool with you going out to drink with other females?
If by flipping the fuck out you mean posting a quick thread on the Vag while playing with my balls, then yeah, I flipped the fuck out.
Trust issues? Maybe I do, you're probably right. I guess I wasn't feeling particularly confident yesterday and they came out more.
I see what you're saying beer, my SO and I try to keep the "pet names" to a minimum if we're out in public/I'm around my friends because it annoys them. Like, if I call him babe a couple times in front of them they'll be like "Babe, does he have a name... oh thanks BABE, BABE BABE BABE." Then they'll start just calling him a pet name instead of his real name too making fun of me saying "I thought that was his name!"
It's not like they care if it's here and there, but if I ONLY address him in pet names/not his real name they think it's annoying as hell.
BUT I see where he's coming from if the context of their relationship is that she NEVER calls him his first name, my radar would go off too. In my relationship, it wouldn't I don't think you're being completely unreasonable considering it was a break in the pattern for you guys.
Talk to her Maybe she was mad, maybe something was up, maybe it was totally innocuous.