I had always been fit for most my entire life and had always been concious of my body apperance so I worked out atleast 3-5 times a week and watched my diet, and trained in martial arts. about a year ago, I got into a motorcycle accident and screwed up my wrist. And then I lost motivation and got depressed for ahwile and started eating shitty foods, and stopped going to the gym or doing any athletic activities, needless to say got fat and gained about 35lbs. now I look fat and disgusting. So today, she tells me that her little brother is having a birthday pool party at an indoor swimming pool facility then go to Pizza Hut after for dinner. I figured if I was completely honest and told her about the real reason I don't want to go she would understand and just accept not going to the pool party and just attend dinner afterward. So I told her that I feel very uncomfortable swimming because im self-concious about my weight.. but she just started laughing at me and now is probably going to tell her parents and family about it and make me more uncomfortable.. I then confronted her and told her to be more sensitive to my feelings, so she said I could go and just not swim. That's fine and all but it would still make me feel uncomfortable and weird showing up to a pool party where I just sit there and not swim. I just feel people will be asking me or be thinking wtf is my problem coming to a pool party and not swimming and would make for an even more uncomfortable situation for me. so I explain this to her but she's being stubborn and started getting angry at me so I just hung up on her. What can I do? Am I being too unreasonable? I really really don't want to go and swim or sit there either but I'm willing to go to her little bro's birthday lunch/dinner. I told her to make up an excuse that I had to work for part of that day but she said she does not want to lie to her parents and made me feel more shitty about myself. what are your thoughts?