Ok so here's a short synopsis about everything. Her ex and her were friends for a long time before they started dating, around 7 or 8 years of being best friends. They ended up dating for about 3 years after that, they broke up, we're dating, and they are still friends. I've never been one to be very possessive or jealous over him, she is very open about when they talk, what they talk about, how often they talk, and she always asks my permission about when they hang out. My main issue is that it really does bother me when they hang out and talk. My g/f knows this and still does it but has slowed down tremendously. I never tell her no to them hanging out because of 2 reasons: 1) I don't want her to not hang out or talk with him because of me, and i've told her this. I want her to not want to talk to him because of how he treated her and because he's a douche. They broke up and got back together once and while they were together he was a total douche and really mean and abusive (not physically). When they broke up he's tried to be the perfect guy by being all nice and "amazing" and then when they got back together he was right back as to how he was. Now that they aren't together he's being his nice guy self again and I feel, as well as everyone else feels, that he is not over her at all. Bottom line I want her to not hang out with him or talk with him because she doesn't want to, not because of me. 2) He is her longest running friend. They have been friends for over 10 years and all her other friends haven't been around nearly as long, and/or no longer her friend, and whenever we have this stupid fight she always gets teary eyed, cries, and i feel horrible because he really does mean so much to her. It bothers me because I feel like i should replace those feelings as well as my family replace the place his family holds in her heart. She says that his family was like her second family for a long time. She moved to GA to be with him from WA and lived with them for a while. We honestly never fight except over this but i really cannot stand telling her to not talk to or hang out with her only friend from childhood who means so much to her. I cannot stand seeing her cry. I really want her to be happy and she seems to be happy that they talk but it really does bother me. I put her happiness over this stupid little problem because she means so much to me. Her cheating is out of the question. I know she isn't cheating on me because of the fact i see and know when the talk, what they talk about, when they hang out. She's with me when she's not at work and the only time she's not with me is when she's with one of our friends. She only sees him like once a week which i told her is very generous because she'd be hard pressed to find a boy who would let her hang out with her ex once a week, even with someone i trust as a "chaperon." I don't want to keep fighting with her and we're just at the point where it's really starting to become a problem. As i see it i have 2 options. Either suck it up or put my foot down. This is more of a vent than anything else but I just really don't know what to do. I know that if i told her to she would completely stop talking to him but as i said before i don't want her to do it because of me. I want her to not talk to him because she doesn't want to, not because i make her. Sorry, I've had a few s and I'm mostly venting than anything else. I know it's long but I'd appreciate anyone that read it and post their opinions or suggestions.