I posted this in the main forum, and got the opinions of that crowd. I'd also like to see what the emotionally sophisticants in the Asylum have to say... Back story: Girlfriend lived in Tokyo for 2 years as an exchange student (this was before we were together). During the time, she slept with a English kid twice. She has 3 friends that live in the UK, and she wants to go see all of them. However, apparently this kid she slept with is the only one that lives in London, and so when she flies in, he'll pick her up, show her around for a few days, and she'll be on her way to Sheffield to see her other friends. The kid she slept with, and her other two friends were all close, and all studied at Leeds. When we first got together, my girlfriend said that if they lived in the same place, she'd be with this kid. Now, she claims that he mistreats women, etc. and loves me. My thoughts: She goes and I condone it, I'm a sucker. She doesn't go because of me, I'm an asshole. She's immature for bringing it up, and I shouldn't have to bless or squash the visit. She invited me to go, but somehow, I just see it as a dick measuring contest which results in me being pissed. Thoughts?