this is a bit long, sorry backstory : i've been in a relationship with my gf for 3 and a half years. we started dating between the end of my sophmore year and beginning of my junior year of college. things have been really great between us, i feel such great chemistry when we're together. sure there are things about her i dont like, but ive accepted her flaws since i certainly have my own share. she graduated from college this past summer, and began working a full time temp job to pay the bills cuz of the economy. her best friend moved away to europe for a year, so she had to move out to a 1 bedroom apartment by herself. all of her college friends have moved away or aren't really good friends anymore. I on the other hand live with 3 good friends from college who i hang out with regularly, and have a few other groups of friends to hang out with. lately she's been feeling really lonely. her mom lives an hour away, and she's thinking about moving out to california with her boyfriend (we live in texas). my gf also has a lot of other family out there who she really enjoys visiting. she also wants to get a job with her degree (majored in advertising), and LA is one of the places to be for that kind of work. she's always said she wants to have different experiences in live, such as living in different cities/states. so, in the past few weeks/couple of months, she's been heavily considering moving out to los angeles. one of her cousins from LA came down this past weekend to visit her, and told her that she could probably get a her job if she came out there. she also said that my gf could stay with her family until she gets on her feet. so, room and work have pretty much been taken care of (although the job is not a complete certainty). tonight we've been talking about things, and i can tell that this is something that she's really wants to do. neither of us are ready to get married yet. we're both in our early 20's. if i were 10 years older, i would have proposed already, but i dont want to be married and neither does she. proposing to her now wouldnt really fix anything, because then she'd be tied down here and her loneliness issues wouldnt be fixed. i'm basically the only thing tying her down. now, i've tried to help her fix the loneliness thing. ive encouraged her to go out with coworkers and to meet new people, but i cant really make friends for her. i think even if that issue were fixed, she'd still have the urge to move away and have a fresh start anyway. my problem is i dont know how to feel about this. if i were a 3rd party and didnt have any stock in my feelings, i'd tell her to absolutely go for it. you're only young once, so why not get a fresh start somewhere new. the problems is i really do love her and dont want her to go. one "easy" solution would be for me to move out there with her. the thing is that i just bought a house here and have a really good job that i enjoy and am kicking ass at. i dont want to give that up and have to start over. also, all my friends and family are here so i'd be leaving all of them. my brain tells me it'd be best for her to go, but my emotions arent logical. so, i really dont know how to feel about all this. it's probably going to happen sooner or later, so what should i be doing to prepare for it? should i just break up with her now, which would make it easier for her to leave and would help me start healing immediately? should i try to long distance thing even though i know that wouldnt work out, in the off chance that she hates california and wants to move back? im having a really hard time trying to figure out what's best for both of us at this point has anyone else gone through a similar situation? how did you feel about it? how did you feel about it 6 months later? cliffs: girlfriend wants to move halfway across the country. i dont want her to move and cant move with her, what do i do?