OK, basically I need the Vag's opinion in this. I just got into a pretty heated debate with one of my best girl friends about this and I would love to see how people view this situation. One of my other best girl friends, we'll call her Judy, and I were very close and had the same large group of friends. We were in no way ever sexual and did not want to have a relationship or anything like that, we were just very close friends. About 6 months ago, Judy got a boyfriend and basically dropped ALL of her friends. Now some things you should know about Judy - she is 23, she's had many relationships, but only a few "serious" ones in her younger days but none recently, was looking for "love" and didn't want to just settle for anyone, is very attractive and could have a one-night stand with any guy she wanted, used to be very promiscuous, and finally found a guy that she thought she really connected with. Now all that is just fine, but this girl would go out with us every time we went out, and her and I were very close. She gets with this guy and drops everyone, not only me, and just concentrates on this dude. I was obviously very upset with it, and most other people were too, but some of the girls were understanding about it and said that they were just glad she was happy. Not that I wasn't, of course I want all my friends to be happy, but burning bridges of great relationships with true friends is completely unacceptable to me. Fast forward to now, they are now engaged. I have not seen/heard/spoken to her in the ~6 months since they've been together except for a few times - she had to have an emergency appendectomy (sp?) and we all visited her in the hospital and brought her gifts at home (this was at the beginning of summer, maybe 4 months ago?). After we went out of our way to make sure she was feeling OK and acted like true friends would and she still did not care enough to save friendships with anyone I was absolutely done with her. A few weeks ago she texted me randomly with things asking if I still cared about her (obviously she knew I was mad even though I never said anything because she knows how much I value my friends) and I gave her basically answers to tell her that I was very upset but did not want to start a fight because I am basically over any feelings of anger since its been so long now and it is not worth my time. This past weekend I found out they got engaged and sent her a text saying congratulations and I was happy for her, because I still do want her to be happy, and all I get back is "thanks". I don't know why but this caused all the anger to come back at her, like she is just completely unappreciative of anything anyone does for her, and I am just shocked by how willing she is to be selfish and throw away relationships for no reason. I know I probably sound like a drama queen with this post, but it REALLY takes a lot for me to get fired up, but this really did it. I am never mad at anyone, and am usually the one to try to solve problems between people because I can understand people's point of views and how other people can misunderstand a situation. But to me, I value my friendships more than anything and even when I was in a 4 year relationship, I made sure that it never hurt my relationships with other people I really care about. Speaking today with one of my other BEST girl friends, she basically said that women are more willing to put all of their efforts into their relationships, and since she is serious enough to get engaged to this guy that she isn't doing anything wrong. I think that is complete BULLSHIT and would never throw away relationships with the people I care about just because I found happiness with a woman. What do you all think? Cliffs: I am a guy, one of my best girl friends completely turned her back on all of her friends, including me, just because she now has a boyfriend and has recently become engaged to him, and I am asking for opinions on whether or not my anger at her dropping all of her friends is reasonable.