What is it with girls who flake all the time? There is a girl I know who I've been friends with for ~5 years now. She was best friends with another girl I knew and the three of us used to hang out semi-often. There is no chemistry or sexual tension between us.. we talk maybe two or three times a month, usually not for very long. She has said "I haven't actually seen you in a couple months we gotta hang out some time" and I've said "yeah that sounds cool, lets hang out on (xxx) and just grab some lunch or something". She's agreed it to two times, and both times flaked on me. Each incident was about 5 weeks apart. She always says that she feels sick or has cramps. The third friend doesn't see either of us very much anymore because she's so busy with school, work, and her boyfriend. When the three of us did hang out as a trio once in a while, the girl that I was speaking of above had a tendency to flake pretty often as well. She'd cancel on group plans, and plans with just the other girl. She's got some social problems IMO --- she's 21 and doesn't drive or go to school, still lives at home and works at a pretty low end job. For the most part she's a pretty decent looking normal girl so I'm kind of confused why she seems so scared to be around other people.