Lately I've now got her to identify with me that she has no self-esteem/confidence which is true. She was on our varisity volleyball team, 4.0 in honors and aps. Smoked me on the SAT/ACT, blah blah blah. Were all special and good at different things and different ways. Yet she isnt satisfied with herself. I asked her why she does it and she says not to get grounded. Logically I realize that may be some reason, but I'm sure she loves to learn and challenge herself. She admitted to that. I just need to get her to be more confident so she won't be so hidden in public. I'm also trying to better another person. I told her she is going to start working out soon b/c she considers herself fat. Don't ask me how that works I think she is 5'9" and weighs 140-150. Shes rather tall and by god shes pretty damn thin to my eyes. This was my first step. She also liked and persued my idea of writing in a journal(I was also proud of her when she said I couldn't read it). Anyway what are some more ways I can build self-esteem in her. If she could one day come up to me with full self-esteem I would reach a new level of happiness I have never felt before. On the flip side maybe I'm greedy? Maybe she is supposed to suffer and that is her character? Any thoughts or ideas are greatly welcome.