First post here in The Asylum. Hi, my name is Papa Sil Anyhow... I'm with my girlfriend, we've been on and off for many years. I love her, I do. However, there are some things that just make me go crazy nuts. I'll spare the majority, but there is something that I'd like to vent about. She is what some people would classify as "high maintenance" and I think she agrees with this My problem is that there is absolutely no reciprocation in the relationship. So long as we've been together, I pay for EVERYTHING. Even down to the slightest things we do all the time. Whether it be renting a movie, buying dinner, picking up lunch, buying alcohol, going to see a movie, going places that cost money to get there and then having to pay to get in, etc. Now, I know the man is supposed to be the care taker and what not, yadda yadda yadda. I do everything for her though and get nothing in return. I get a thank you after buying dinner, sure, but I would just be irate if that weren't the case. She is also very defensive. Bring up something that she doesn't necessarily like hearing and it's all over. She'll get defensive, then try and turn it around, then tell me that she doesn't want to talk to me at the moment because SHE'S upset So I try and avoid saying anything that bothers me in the relationship for fear that she'll just get upset and not talk to me Is any of this making sense? As I'm sitting here thinking of what to type I'm actually getting frustrated and pounding the keys There's more but I'm seriously upset now and don't feel like typing anymore. Besides ending it, which I don't, what else ya got? Anyone else experience this?