hey all - just kinda wanted to vent , and maybe see if anyone has any advice on this one. I'm sure some people remember my long ago ( at least it feels that way) ex-gf who pretty much financially owned me and just about destroyed my life , well thankfully that is finally over and I'm on a good path now. over the past couple months i have been seeing a girl ,and we just get along great , never argue or anything and just seems like a great fit into my life. shes 24 and I'm 30, she has 2 kids but overall she seems way more mature than any other girl I've been with , and only wants me, for me, and not my money or cars or any other materiel object. now for the sticky part.. she is married.. however the "relationship" if you can call it that is pretty much dead. (i gather this not just from what she tells me , but when i do hear the 2 of them talk to each other , its just pure hate). i know its wrong to get with a married woman , and it was not something i was out there looking to do , but it happened. She has assured me all along that they do not sleep together or do anything else as a married couple , and she is just biding her time to end it, untill she completes school. That timeframe was recenly accelerated when he failed to pay the rent on their apartment (and from what i gather hid it from her) and they ended up being evicted. she then decided to get her own place with the kids , and go ahead with the divorce procedings. the only problem that has really come up between us , was her making a small mistake , and leaving her old cell phone out in the open , after she moved out ( she is staying in a hotel with the kids right now untill they can get a place) . He found it , and it had a couple days worth of texts on it that might incriminate her , as to the relationship that we've had over the past few months. it also contains my number and home address on it . she was worried that i'd be mad at her , but im not , and realize things happen. however i am concered as to what this might do to harm her chances of retaining custody of the kids . and any potential retailiation that this guy may try to bring to me . he has a history of getting violent with her , abusive a few times, which caused him to lose his police job. on my end of it , i have decided to be as supportive as i can of her choices and see where our relationship goes from there. i know she isnt going back to him at all, i just am concerned that our relationship would have an adverse effect on her keeping the kids ( tho i cant really see her losing them , as the dude is living in a car right now lol) so yea.. as of right now , we still have an amazing relationship , and try to see each other as much as possible. and have plans really try to move forward with our relationship so.. what do yall think ? can we make it thru this , and survive what might be a messy divorce , or will this whole thing just crumble around me ??