I am not attracted to her physically. Here is the story: Dated a really cute girl for 3.5 years. I am 10 years older and started dated when she was 19 and me 29. She is incredibly attractive to me physically, but has a long way to go maturity-wise. She broke up with me back in May to go "do her own thing", which has consisted of going to clubs, getting trashed all the time and having lots of "boys" around her. Whatever. So, I met someone 2 months ago that is a great person and probably a good person for me, but she is 10 years older than me and I am not all that physically attracted to her. I don't mind hanging out with her in public or couching it, but don't want any PDA's or really much desire to sleep with her. We have slept together a few times after going out drinking with friends, but can't sober. She is a really great person in many ways, but I just can't get over the physical attraction thing. I don't know if that is being shallow or if that is something that just is normal? I enjoy hanging out with her, but she wants more than I do and I kinda explained that I don't want a relationship anymore than great friends. I feel kinda shallow for thinking like this.