Have you ever gone through your gf's phone?

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Have you ever gone through your gf's phone?

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  2. No I haven't

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  3. I always wanted to but have no reason to

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  1. nd123416

    nd123416 SLeeper

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    Following along with the other thread, this made me wonder how common this is in relationships. I had a gut feeling when I first started dating my gf and went through it to find her ex kept harassing her. She changed phones but I still have minor trust issues.
     
  2. Amanda Ann

    Amanda Ann New Member

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    I'm a chick and I can honestly say that I've never gone through a boyfriend's phone, nor have I had the desire to.
     
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    yep, but not behind her back
     
  4. peoplescar

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    yup, but we weren't really dating at the time, i was at my wits end and had a bad gut feeling. never did it before or after that.

    turns out i was right too.
     
  5. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Definitely.
     
  6. Luck of the Irish

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    no... what's even the point
     
  7. Aronomy

    Aronomy Get your COME ON!

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    I've done it. I would do it again. I also encourage my boyfriend to look through mine. So...maybe I'm weird.
     
  8. nd123416

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    I don't think its a bad thing to check every now and then while they are sleeping if you feel like something is different. Like falconer said if you do find something, you should wait to the last minute to have enough evidence before you ruin the surprise. I wish I did that to see what could have been up but it is hard to when you are angry
     
  9. Amanda Ann

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    I'm with you on this.
     
  10. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    This is what I'm like. I need a woman that feels this way as well. None of my shit is off limits to my SO.
     
  11. Amanda Ann

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    :werd:

    If you want to go through my phone, why not ask me??
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    It's not snooping if they have your permission. :dunno:
     
  13. Amanda Ann

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    I swear to God, I was just going to post the same exact reasoning. If you don't trust me enough that you have to "snoop" through my phone - I don't want to be with you.
     
  14. nd123416

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    Well depends how the relationship is going, if you have to be stealthy then you have to do it to put the bullshit to an end. I don't think it should be a regular thing, I think every now and then if you wanna show each other your stuff then it builds trust.
     
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    I agree that if someone does not have permission it isn't right or healthy for them to look through your phone unless they have significant reason to question your loyalty/honesty.

    But honestly I'm just curious. I won't try and say I haven't looked through someone's shit because I didn't trust them because that would be a lie. I have, however, just looked because I was curious.
     
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    nope
     
  17. Amanda Ann

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    There's been plenty of times when I've been driving or busy and I'll get a text and ask my boyfriend to read it/reply. I think that kind of "looking" is warranted. But, if you're going to be stealthy and wait until I fall asleep to "peruse" my phone, then, we have a problem.
     
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    Ex went thru my phone (which I might add was 3 yrs old and was being used solely as my alarm clock:rolleyes:) and threw a shit fit about all the OLD shit he found on it, and so I returned the favor with an old phone of his in a drawer and proved my point. He had inappropriate albeit OLD shit on his phone too....:rolleyes:. Good times ensued. I don't find it necessary to snoop though. I believe we are entitled to some sense of privacy and if you feel the need to snoop there's some serious issues to discuss in my opinion.
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    It's really one of those things that kind of feeds on itself though. I mean the more someone wants to keep something from their partner, the more it appears like something is being hidden. I mean look at the other thread where the chick was vehement about not letting her bf touch her phone. That says something.
     
  20. peoplescar

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    this is the only way i'd do it.
     
  21. john law

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    WE GET IT...really we do.
     
  22. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    But why did you keep all those old inappropriate things? It must be because they still mean something to you. YOU STILL LOVE HIM DON'T YOU?

    /mytheoryofhowyourfightwentdown
     
  23. Amanda Ann

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    :ugh::rolleyes:

    If you're gonna multiquote me making the same point - let's do it to everyone else is the same thread, k?
     
  24. john law

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    You are by far the winner in this thread. You have 1/2 the posts in this thread, and they all say the same thing. I've seen you post the same thing in other threads

    We get it, you don't go through your bfs phone...really we do.
     
  25. DTR rex

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    I've done it twice. The first time was years ago and I was suspicious about a male friend she had. Turns out I was wrong.

    Did it once more, recently, and found out she was getting very close and have an "emotional affair" with a guy from work.

    Not sure how I feel about checking though. In one sense, I found out she was doing something wrong/inappropriate which prompted me to end things.. but just the same, If I had just trusted her she may have stopped it before it got serious like she said she planned to do.
    Then again, she may not have stopped and I may have been really cheated on. soooooooooooo..............
     

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