Ok. This is long. I met this girl at my university almost a year ago in one of my classes. She's this tiny, skinny, nerdy very-americanized asian girl. For the first couple months of the fall quarter, we barely talked, but then near the end (November) we started talking and talking and flirting and flirting. Eventually, I just asked her if she'd be down to do anything one friday night when she got out of class and she said yeah. So we go on the "thing", and afterwards asks if it was a date. I'm in my head going "uhhh", so I just say "yes" to see what she says. Then she starts acting all gushy and stuff whenever we talk and see each other. So the next week, she invites me to her campus apartment. We eat (she made dinner) and watch a movie in her room. We end up making out until like 2am. Then the next weekend I come to find out that the day before I asked her to do stuff, she had broken up with her boyfriend of 1 year (He goes to UC Davis, so it's really far away, LDR). I was like . She tried to cut things off with me (at the request of her now ex-bf) while she went home for Winter Break. I told her to stop listening to her controlling boyfriend and make her own decision. She ended up shutting him out of her life for a couple months and dated me when she came back. They are now friends right now and nothing more, I know for a fact. Complete dead fact. This is also my first actual relationship-relationship. Anyway, all is good until late March when we go on Spring Break. Her hometown is about an 1.5 hour drive. I had scheduled myself for work for a good 6 out of the 7 days for that week, so needless to say I told her in advance I may not see her during the week, but since she was coming back on Sunday, that it shouldn't be a problem. She agreed, everything was normal. Then, as the week wore own, and after talking normally with her about almost every night, she went weird crazy psycho and was saying stuff like "you're totally careless" and "you always disappoint me". I was like "WTF?" cause we had discussed the whole week before hand and I was just getting off work, so I was in a bad mood. We ended up breaking up. When we got back, (we work in the same place at school), we got back together after having a "2-week WTF are we doing period" where would have sex and randomly do stuff. So we got back together at the beginning of April, everything is fine until July. I had sort of stopped having strong feelings for her by July and it was starting to show in my actions. I wouldn't call her as much and when she was gone back home after Spring Quarter ended (it had only been 1 week), she wanted me to come up. I didn't want to come up that weekend cause, again, I had work scheduled. She had called me at least 10 times a day for that week, and I found that extremely annoying (I'm sorry, I just did) and would only answer 1 or 2 of her calls a day. Then on July 4th, I had scheduled myself for work cause I wanted the Holiday Pay, but on my way to work she phoned me and said she was breaking up with me. I had mentally tuned out from here, and just said "K, Laters." The reason I tuned her out over the last month prior to this was because I found her very negative. She's a very neurotic asian girl that keeps thinking her friends hate her (honest to god, hate her) over the littlest of incidents. She roomed with her high school friends during the school year we dated, and by the end of that year, she basically dettached herself from them because of her attitude. She talks about her concerns like any normal person, but she talks about them 5,6,7, 10 more times after we've discussed them for hours and hours on end and I've given her my 2cents and it just annoys the living daylights out of me, and I just tune her out cause it's the same story I've heard a billion times before and helped her out with. This leads to another thing: she repeats things like no other. She'll ask "why do you like me?" or "why are you dating me?" contradicted with the same endearments and flatterings she'd give. ALSO: She repeatedly told me she wanted to marry me and have my children. She first told me she loved me and wanted to marry me before our first break up during Spring Break. That freaked me out, ALOT. Not only because she's my first girlfriend, but because I'm young, and that's not really something I want to hear at this stage in my life. Ok, so I'm single for about a solid month. I worked during the summer, she didn't work for the first month of summer but came back at the beginning of August. When she came back, I just went over her Facebook and saw some dude posting cutesy stuff on her page and she had been posting weird, gushy status updates that went back to the 14th of July (we broke up on the 4th). So I'm thinking, wtf, rebound much? (which is ironic, cause I'm technically a rebound, but whatever). So that Friday, I contact her and say I want to talk because I had been getting a mix of jealousy and nostalgia when she arrived (to be perfectly honest). I found out she's "seeing" this guy, but they're not "bf/gf". He's some fag (you'll see why I call him such) that basically stalked her while she was with me and the minute we broke up started contacting her to do things. (SIDENOTE: when my GF and I broke up in July, I later found out that she sent out an email to all her "Close Friends" that basically said "I BROKE UP WITH MY BF, FIND ME A GUY TO REBOUND OFF OF". So I find out they had sex and got raging pissed and calmed down when we were talking back at her place (he's gone to his hometown for the weekend). The past month I had been just casually thinking about the things I did wrong in the relationship (it was my 1st, so naturally I'd want to analyze and think things over). I thought I may have been a bit harsh on her in the way I acted toward her. So, what basically happened is I ended up having sex with her that night after spending all night talking with her about what I did wrong and how I had really thought I could make a genuine 3rd go at the relationship. I felt I was a bit cold and closed because I wasn't ready for an actual relationship because of my lack of experience, but wanted to give this one another shot without having those sort of reservations about the relationship. So after having sex with her, she still says she'll think about it. She ends up telling the guy what's going on ugh2, and he ends up being a little bitch and pulls the "Oh I'll never talk to you again if you stay with him, anyone but him!" card and fucking drinks himself drunk alone at his house all weekend. I comfort her and spend the night with her and have sex with her again in the morning. I go back to work and I'm on AIM and I get all these rude, grammatically horrid messages from the guy telling me that I'm a pussy and I should slit my wrists (LOL). I just tell him "Whatever, just go that road, man." and send what he says to the GF (She's there at work with me since she has things to do that can be done at my work, work is at a college library). She decides she doesn't want to be with someone that drinks and acts like a 5 year old when stuff like this happens and chooses me "Just because of that." That has bothered me til this day. When we got back together she said that she was going to go with him (even after we had talked all day and all night, had sex twice, had breakfast together, and she was now right next to me the entire next day all while technically still "seeing him") So we get back together and I'm genuinely happy for the next 1.5 months. I'm very attentive, genuinely attracted to her. She's very happy, caring, some bad mouthing about her (honestly) spoiled, bratty new apartment mates (She told me that she found new roommates because of me, because apparently her old roommates from high school didn't like the idea of me spending the night at her place, Blaming me for new roomeis) But genuinely happy for those 1.5 months. Now a couple weeks ago, I just start seeing her get unreasonably stressed out over things that shouldn't be getting any worry out of her. She hates her boss, her club vice president (who she believes stalks her and secretly likes her), and is now alienating herself from her new roommates (although understandably). I then start seeing why I tuned out from her in the first place. She turned from a sweet, motherly little girl to a bitchy, stressed out person who ONLY complains and complains ONLY to me about the same things endlessly that shouldn't even be complaint-worthy. I've found that most people she talks to actually sort-of do the same thing too. They either tune her out, be "nice" to her, or just ignore her. I have genuinely just lost romantic interest in her. She keeps telling me how her friend of 5 years that suggested that one guy date her now hates her and that because she made the mistake of doing stuff with that guy, her friends are "turning on her". But after her constant nagging over pointless things, her repetitious nature and her negative attitude, I've just gone back to where I was. I just don't find her attractive or engaging at all anymore. What do I do? I feel guilty if I break up with her, cause she's basically isolating herself to just me and her, and I'm basically her support right now. Although I don't like who she is right now, I'm still being a nice guy and giving her my advice and she takes it in (but frankly, doesn't use it cause I have to keep telling her the same things over and over again). If I stay with her, I feel trapped, bored, annoyed, and anxious. If I break up with her, I'll have to see her at work (oh btw, i got her both her school jobs by my recommendation when the positions weren't open, they made special cases for her cause both my bosses are really cool like that). I also don't want to have what happened in July - Aug happen again and come back to her. Seriously, I am so lost as to what to do right now. **NINJA EDIT** I forgot to add. I saw her email one day when she left it open on the computer screen when she went to take a shower and it had her gmail conversation page up. She talks with her ex-bf on there. So I click a link to a conversation that was pretty big (it shows how many lines in the conversation in the title of the saved thing). So I just browse through it and see her writing lines where she's flirting and telling the ex-bf that she still likes him and imagines being with him and shit. (This is back in .... February? i think, before the first break up). I don't ask her directly about it. But a couple days later, I just ask roundabout things like her opinion on cheating and what constitutes it. And like she answers with "even considering or thinking about not being with the person you're with is cheating!" ugh2. I ask her if she's happy with me and was having second thoughts about her ex, she tells me "no, you're the one for me." Then I tell her I saw her conversations with the other guy and wanted to know if anything was going on. I pressed pretty hard and made her feel pretty bad about it, but I don't think anything went on, just words. So there's that bit of information. And just for reference. Sure, I've flirted with other girls, who doesn't. It's fun. But I know where the line is. And that line has never been crossed. I've put myself in the position where it definately could have been crossed just to see if I could, but never let it.