LGBT Help an anonymous OT'er out v. ADVICE

Discussion in 'Lifestyle' started by Naturally Baked, Dec 10, 2008.

  1. Naturally Baked

    Naturally Baked Active Member

    Sep 24, 2007
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    Detroit, Murder Mitten
    I'm a 30 year old man who has only ever had sex with women, but I have begun to realize that I very well might be "bi" to an extent.

    I have never had, nor do I think I'd like, any "assplay", however I constantly see cock in porn that I'd love to suck. I also see men on the street ("twink"-ish type guys, I think is the term) that I fantasize about.

    I still love and want to have sex with women I see daily (I see why Bundy chose college campuses :o ) but I want to explore the other side of my attractions and am curious about the best ways to go about it.
  2. This sounds like the first actual bi guy I've ever heard from. Most seem to be "gay undercover" but he seems real.

    As for meeting guys, maybe a gay bar? May not be the easiest place if it's your first time ever talking with a guy like that, but it could help break the ice. Please don't go lurking on Craigslist personals, most of those guys are dirty and are not the kinds of guys you would want to go on a date or fool around with. Normally I'd say find a boy through friends but it sounds like you are very very in the closet so that probably is not an option at this point. Sorry I couldn't be of more help, hopefully some of the older and more experienced guys (and gals) can help you.
  3. TheMustafa

    TheMustafa hook 'em

    May 21, 2003
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    Austin, Tx
    meet people on, craigslist, or whatever, chat with them for a while, pick a guy you're comfortable with, hang out a bit, and do whatever you wanna do. play safe always.

    i mean, if cock interests you, you might as well try sucking some dick, right?
  4. novo

    novo Pokey Man OT Supporter

    Oct 18, 2005
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    Low Haight
    first i'd say that this sort of thing is more common than you think.

    second, since you are in the "experimental" stage it's probably better do stay in the closet about this sort of thing, so while going to gay bars may actually be a viable option..there will be a lot of exposure. find chat sites, put out a craigslist ad and see what the responses are.

    do you have any gay friends or acquaintances you could talk to about this sort of thing? if so, they are your best bet. they will be understanding, won't out you and could hook you up with someone trustworthy.
  5. Where is anonymous person from? Hopefully SF or something...that would make it easier.
  6. Sam Gamgee

    Sam Gamgee Every tool is a weapon if you hold it right. OT Supporter

    Oct 5, 2001
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    Western MA
    Confusion about sexuality is common.

    Here's the bad news:
    1) You're only on this planet for a short period of time (in the grand scheme of things) so you owe it to yourself to live the most honest, true life you can... and you need to do it sooner rather than later.
    2) Society doesn't really comprehend bisexuality very well since most Americans feel more comfortable thinking in "black and white" terms so they can put you into a little box with your lable.

    Here's the good news:
    1) Your sexuality is yours and nobody elses
    2) You can explore that sexuality on your own before involving friends and family into your the issue
    3) To quote George Michael, "Sex is natural, sex is fun, sex is best when it's one on one"... no mention of man/woman, or man/man... So, just have fun. It doesn't have to be a stressful thing for you unless you let it be a stressful thing for you.

    The beauty of this short life that we get on this planet is that we have been given the freedom of thought and reason and exploration. So, turn this "challenge" into an "opportunity". Have fun with this new aspect that you are discovering about yourself.

    And worry about the other shit (family, friends, society) later on, once you've done some research.

    And yes, bitches, I just quoted George Michael... get over it!!! :fawk:

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