I saw (she didn't see me) this girl at a bar the first time and she was gorgeous. Then I forgot about her for a while and later on accidentally found her on the internets. We mostly talked through AIM. She always was flirty and nice to talk to. Then one evening, I saw her at the gym with her friends. I talked to her, but she didn't recognize me. We exchanged #s earlier (my first mistake was not to call when she gave it to me) so she called me a few minutes later. Told me sorry she didn't recognize me at first and then asked me what I was doing later (I think she wanted to go out with her friends and would have invited me too). I already had other plans so I said we'll definetely do it some other time. She has since moved about 70 miles away and we've been chatting on AIM on and off. She'll IM me once a month or so. We agreed that we're going to do something (an activity) together after I was going to come back from a trip. She hasn't contacted me about it within the timeframe we agreed to do it. So I finally decided enough with my insercurity and I told her I'll call her when I get back from my trip to share the experiences of this activity that I ended up doing with other friends. I called and she didn't answer. I made a mistake of leaving a voicemail. She never called me back. So at this point, I decided screw it. A couple weeks later (a few days ago), she IMs me again and tells me she will be in town with some friends. I said cool, let me know when you're here and we'll do something. She said OK. She never called. What is going on here? Am I too much of a pussy and should be more persistent/have more initiative, or she's just a teaser? I've previously thought she isn't too comfortable meeting me right away after just online talk (even though we've seen plenty of pictures of each other), but this would have been a get together with other friends too (as in, if she didn't like me, nothing would've happened and it wouldn't have been awkward as in the case that only the two of us met). Any help would be greatly appreciated.