I don't think its overreacting, but I do think you need to talk to a mental health professional. I'm speaking as someone who's been sexually assaulted herself. You cannot allow this to take over your mind, because it will soon occupy all your thoughts. You already say you can't go out and speak to anyone. That's only reinforcing your fears. The best thing I ever did was force myself back into the situation, and form a meaningful relationship in which I was able to associate all those bad things with new good memories. Seriously, talk to someone. I never did and it took me many years to ever open up to anyone about it, and it was only after I began to talk that I started to get over it.
So sorry to hear that something like this happened to you. Don't let anyone tell you that you are overreacting. You react what ever way you do and that's perfectly fine. One of the big problems that people face with these situations is the "nothing happened" illusion. Just because a 'full rape' didn't occur doesn't mean that what did occur was ok. There are a variety of levels of assault, and no one is necessarily 'worse' than the other. They are all horrible in their own way. Please take Yankee's advice and seek some help. This is a very traumatic thing and you need a professional to talk to and help you get through this time. My thoughts are with you....
I don't think its overreacting, but I do think you need to talk to a mental health professional. I'm speaking as someone who's been sexually assaulted herself. You cannot allow this to take over your mind, because it will soon occupy all your thoughts. You already say you can't go out and speak to anyone. That's only reinforcing your fears. The best thing I ever did was force myself back into the situation, and form a meaningful relationship in which I was able to associate all those bad things with new good memories. Seriously, talk to someone. I never did and it took me many years to ever open up to anyone about it, and it was only after I began to talk that I started to get over it.
hey, it took me more than 10 years from the first incident to get over it. and frankly, there's still triggers. Its something you're going to have to deal with again and again. At first you're going to think about it every day, all the time. One day the time will come when you realize you didn't think about it at all. And then slowly, you will move on. You will never forget.
I have a pistol, I've had much training and military too... too hard carry concealed in cali, ordering an Asp... looking into krav... problem is that I froze, and forgot everything. But thanks.
It took me about that long to get over the first one. Well... at least I thought I was over it, but freezing and flashing back.... just shows I am not over it. One of the reasons I got into the BDSM scene is that for me, the formality of it all and decorum, allowed me in a sense to take back what was taken from me then. In my opinion, submissives have the real control, having the power to call the scene with a safeword, the power of trust given to the dominant. Probably sounds silly but it let me cope with it, and feel like a victim no longer... until this happened. I thought I was past it.
thanks... I have missed two appointments with my psych, just haven't been able to get myself out the door, just freezing, unable to grab the handle. This all happened at a big gas station at noon on a thursday on the busiest street in the city... which is why I was lucky someone pulled me out. The guys pulled up to me before driving off and said that I would regret not letting them "take care" of me... I dorve around for an hour before goin home, afraid of bein followed. Iono... I will get to the psych, just need to get there...
interesting, I tend to be toward the submissive side as well...now that I think about it, I feel pretty close to the way you do about that.
Whoa. Your friend is senseless for making you feel guilty.
I would probably go on a murderous rampage being put in that kind of position. I've been through some unpleasant abuses myself ... Thought I've resolved not to ever put up with shit like that again, I don't know that I'd react any different than you!
I've made the same promises to myself. Sadly enough, I did freeze years after I'd made that choice and allowed it to happen again. I was so pissed off at myself for that, but eventually I realized it wasn't my fault.
yeah unfortunately, its not about what you're wearing. when all that happened to me, I was a little kid, so obviously I wasn't wearing anything provoking. Every time i've ever been followed, I was either a pedestrian walking in jeans and a tee shirt, or a jogger wearing workout clothes and a ponytail. A lot of people in my town don't understand that its not flattering to yell at or follow people, because its more acceptable in their cultures. However, I wasn't used to that behavior and it freaked me out when I was like 13 and 14 years old. When I started dating my boyfriend we started exercising together and it eliminated the problem.
fs stuff aside, carry your damn gun. It does you no good at home. Better to be judged then carried. You swore an oath to uphold the constitution of the united states of america which says in part: A well regulated militia being necessary to the security of a free state, the right of the people to keep and bear arms shall not be infringed. CCW is not a crime no matter what the state says. Carry your damn gun, that you were attacked is not your fault. 3 guys is a planed snatch not some random crime. File a police report. Carry your damn gun and next time shoot em. rant mode off.
