Discussion in 'On Topic' started by Sgt. Friday, May 28, 2009.
Thought I'd share and spread the brilliance. i've highlighted my fav's
I dislike this.
I feel it is necessary to actually "be where the client is at", therefore you need to actually listen and brainstorm what THEY are willing to do first, and work with that.
Oh well, who gives a shit?
so a thread like this
"my kid won't ________"
"have you tried ____a____?"
"have you tried ____b____?"
"have you tried ____c____?"
"have you tried ____d____?"
"do you really want to solve this problem?"
"YES! I just need advice!!"
that makes sense to you?
Sometimes fixing a problem means simply acknowledging it. Other times people want an opinion and a solution. Then there are the cases where people want support for a decision they've already made so that they'll feel more confident about that decision.
I understand what 7 is saying though. We get a lot of repetitive questions. We can't expect people to act like professional counselors though. If the advice is malicious, that's when we've gotta problem. Nothing justifies bad fellowship.
Most of the time, most of the advice here is really good though IMO.
I don't think that is really applicable for the asylum. I think the whole bouncing ideas off of each other is what makes this forum good and people rarely get hostile and take it too far (unlike the daycare.)
a good majority are, but if I had a search function I'd show some choice threads that fit the bill.
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this is one of the most interesting section i read. i just wish there were more new threads...
Why is there no acknowledgment of the person being stuck or of the difficulty of making the choice being offered? Your strategy blatantly misses a large portion of the experience of supporting others, and by "hitting them in the head with a clue" we totally miss what we are doing with these people.
I'd say mainly because IT WAS A FUCKING OVERSIMPLIFIED EXAMPLE, TO ILLUSTRATE A POINT.
definitely agree with that. Too many people (read: moderators) in here think that holding someone's hand and cooing softly to them is the best way to get them the help they're asking for, when the vast majority of people who post in here need a kick in the head more than anything else
that's the beauty of the asylum. You have some who will be the hand-holders to make them feel better, while, at the same time, you'll have others trying to beat a clue into them. It's called teamwork, bro
perhaps you need to beat a clue into him?