Well I broke up with my ex girlfriend about 6 months ago and couldn't be happier. When we broke up I told her I don't ever want to talk to her again. I didn't want to be friend and I didn't want her in my life at all. Yet every few weeks or so she sends me a message online. I have always tried to remain calm and respectful with her but she just wont go away. This is the most current example of what goes on: It starts off nice but remember this is months after telling her to go way. EX: I heard that you are going to visit *mutual friend* pretty soon. Just wanted to say hi and have a safe trip. Say hi to *friend's baby* for me. I really wish we could talk, I miss talking to you. Me: Um why are you even contacting me? I told you not to. I don't want a person like you in my life. You will just bring me down to where I was when I was with you. That little boy is gone now. I've grown up a lot now and I can see now what you did to me and how poorly you treated me. I am much too strong and smart for that. All you did is to lie to me and manulipate me. I said in the letter I want NOTHING to do with you at all. If I ever want that to change I will let you know. But don't expect it ever. I know this message is a little harash but this is at least the 5rd time you have disrespected me and it needs to stop NOW. The simple fact you still can't respect what I need and disregard my feelings for your own proves to me you are unable to be a friend. I don't understand why you want to talk to me with what you did to me anyway. This is our FINAL good bye. Please respect me for once. bye Ex: I am contacting you because I want to contact you. Don't sit there and try to say that you have grown up and say "the little boy is gone" because I can see just from this message that he isn't. Don't think that you can talk to me the way you do. I did nothing but try to be friendly. I thought since we have known each other for almost 5 years and shared 4 of them with one another, that maybe you'd like to be friends some day. There is no reason for you to be so rude. Just because I want to have a polite and friendly conversation doesn't mean I am disrespecting you. Who do you think you are? Just because you are finally doing something with your life and you finally have a good job doesn't give you the right to think that you are "too smart and too strong" to talk to me. The truth is you don't even know me or who I am anymore. If we never speak again, then I do hope you have a good life, even with as rude as you are to me. Have fun on your birthday. Me: I am not fighting with you. It is not something you can make me do anymore. You can act all innocent and pretend that you know me but the fact is that you don't. If you read my message you should be able to tell that I am not acting childish and lashing out at you. However it is clear you still do that by even responding and not respecting my request. I don't want you in my life. Looking back you caused a lot of pain and problems. I did enjoy the time we had but lets face it you lied to me often and cheated on me. Someone like that is not a person I want to assiocate with no matter how long I have know them. I am stonger and smarter now not becasue of my job but how I am in complete control of my life and the directin I am headed. My life is in my hands alone and I love it. My emotions don't control me anymore (stronger) and I know what kind of people I want in my life (smarter). I don't want you to bring *mutual friend* into this. She isn't someone to run to because you are angry with me. She is a great mutual friend who doesn't deserve to be in the middle of whatever you are trying to do. I have been very respectful and forgiving to you while we were together and even afterwards when you very quickly crushed me. But even with that I have been nice in my requests to respect that I am distancing myself from you and how you treated me. I have never swore or spoke with anything but a calm nature to you. Ask yourself if you can say the same thing. I did tell you that maybe one day we can be friends but I don't know if or when that will happen. All I asked of you since you picked up your stuff from my house is for you to leave me alone. But yet you wont respect it. It doesn't matter if you think it will be pleasant or nice conversations I just don't want to have it with you. Thank you for the happy bithday and I hope yours was good as well. Now please just respect this last thing I ask and just let me go. Even our friendship is over now as hard as that may be for you. It is unfortunate but I didn't cause it I only walked away. If you could please not respond to this. I would greatly appricaite that. Live your life to the fullest, and enjoy it with people you love. Good Bye *ex*. I have tried being nice and I would hate to have to block her from stuff online. Doing something like that just seems so highschool but I need her out of my life. It is like she can't let go and she is already with someone else. She knows I am the kind of person who feels guilty and is very forgiving. Which is why I was even with her after she cheated on me. I feel like she is either just trying to fuck with my head to piss me off or work her way into my life becasue mine is going somewhere. I have tried ignoring her and trying to reason with her but nothing works. If anyone has any ideas I would appriciate them.