I'm sure i'm not the only person who has felt like this, and i'm looking for advice on how to stop being a jealous person. Sorry for the long read, i just want to be thorough. cliffs at bottom I’m 26 fyi. For me I believe the Jealousy has stemmed from past relationships, and the way I was raised by my parents. My parents divorced when I was ten, and basically my entire childhood they were constantly fighting and accusing the other of cheating...among many other things. I'm not trying to blame them, but I think this has something to do with how I function in a relationship. My first serious relationship started in highschool (also the first girl i slept with), after about 4 months I find out she was fucking her ex the whole time we were together. So I was crushed, dumped her and moved on, swearing never to let that happen to myself again. Next serious relationship a year later started in highschool, we dated thru highschool and into college. Basically she ended up wanting to go out to the bars all the time and I wouldn’t hear from her for a day afterwards. Find out from her best friend that she was seeing someone else, i confronted her about it and she admitted she was and she had been sleeping with him for a while. That one really hurt bad, we were on and off again for about a year after that and eventually I couldn’t trust her and ended up burning that bridge to the ground. So I got screwed over 2 times ... I can’t imagine any worse pain to put someone thru. I would never wish that upon anyone. I stayed single for a long time, like 3 years while I was working full time and going to college full time. I became close friends with a few girls, but never committed to a relationship with them even though that’s what they wanted. About 4 months back I start dating a girl that is totally not my type, she’s kind of a tom-boy with a “bad-girl” attitude. I get to know her and like her, I figure why not give it a true chance, after a month we commit to each other and are official bf&gf. I completely spilled my guts to this girl about how i got cheated on, and how I have a hard time trusting because of this. She acknowledged and sympathized with me, and vowed never to do that to me. Asks me if I’m a jealous person, I told her yes I can be at times, and she warns me that 80% of her friends are guys and I need to be okay with that. As we all know, most guys that are “good friends” with a female, would probably have sex with them given the opportunity… and are holding on for that opportunity. So I told her I’ll try to be okay with her guy friends. One of her personality traits I’ve picked up on is she is not very open about her feelings toward me. She has a “ say it once and that’s all I should need to be happy” type of attitude. So as we start hanging out together more often I start getting attached, and I can feel myself developing feelings for her that I haven’t felt in a long time. The whole time I have this “wall” up because I feel like I’m going to get fucked over again. I’m pretty well behaved and don’t let her know that I constantly fell like she is going to dump me and/or is cheating on me. This really becomes a problem when were out drinking, because she is a “social butterfly” in her words, and likes attention from anyone(especially dudes) and pretty regularly leaves me standing by myself at the bar to go talk to other people, and once the alcohol starts kicking in I get jealous really easy, and then can’t act normal cause I’m pissed off. … it’s getting to be a problem because now we get in fights because I get jealous and she doesn’t think she is doing anything wrong…. And she is right because she isn’t really doing anything wrong, so I end up being the douche and having to apologize and its happened more than once. I’m really worried that this is going to put too much stress on her and she will dump me because I’m insecure about the relationship. I know the typical answer will be; get over it … but I need to know how, I want to get over it but I don’t know how to shake the feeling. Cliffs; I got cheated on 2 times, stayed single for a while to get over it. Now in a new relationship and jealousy is strong and there is no good reason … need to figure out how to make it go away before I get dumped.