They will txt the guy and be like "so do you miss me?" or "whatcha doin?" or something else that says "hey, i'm communicating with you even tho we're not supposed to be talking but I want to talk to you without talking to you." wtf is up with that? Is this more female mind games? Or are they legitimately trying to see if you are thinking about them? The conclusion that I come to is this: The girl doesn't miss the guy, but she feels better by knowing that he is missing her. This puts her in the position of control. amirite? "The System" says that whoever has the lower interest level controls the relationship.