How do you guys go about gaining confidence in yourself. I was never really confident, because i was made fun of alot during my teens till about 22 because i was really really skinny and looked goofy. Joined the gym about 3 years ago, look like a different person, but still dont feel confident. I go and just criticize myself all the time, wish i looked different, thought different, acted different, was funnier etc. Every time i want to improve on something, i do and then i have another issue pop up with myself and i obsess over it. I really haven't dated any girls in a while, sometimes people actually think im gay because of it. Many people are like your handsome or very good looking, but i always think not no matter how much i have heard this. Hard for me to even look directly at people say at the gym etc, because i don't feel good about myself.