I was dating her for just over a year and a half... she was a great girl. As of yesterday, we decided to take a 1 week break from our relationship. THe problem is, she seems completely unaffected by it. Yesterday she went to hang out with some friends, today also. What the fuck is going on? here is the story: We started dating in October of 2003. Everything was great. We spent almost every day together, and we couldnt be happier. Around the time summer started, we began having some problems. It had a lot to do with the fact that she wanted to hang out with friends a lot. I was a bit too harsh and tried to discourage her from it, mainly because i was selfish. This I admit to, and i shouldnt have done so. She reluctantly parted away from her friends (they were mainly guy friends). School started back up, and we were doing pretty good. We spent at least a few hours together every day, occasionally spent the night together at my brother's house about 30 miles away, etc. Then, around the time of our 1 year anniversary, I began hanging out with my friends more. We played poker a lot, 1-2 times a week, and she, having no friends, would usually come with me, and just sit and read a book while i was playing. I would check up on her every once in a while. Eventually, she started becoming close friends with the people i played poker with (i used to consider them my friends, now they are not worth the shit i step in). It got to the point where she would hang out with them alone, without me. I didnt have too much of a problem with it, except for one person. His name is Nikita. we were pretty good friends at one point, then this shit started. He became VERY flirty with my girlfriend. As in, they would hit each other, kick each other, hold hands to stop each other from hitting the other one, he started picking her up, etc. After this, I decided to part ways with them. A few months ago, I gradually began to distance myself from them, and no longer hung out with them. I told her she could hang out with them, but I would no longer hang out with them together, because I got sick of seeing what was going on. Monday, I left early from hanging out with some other friends (acquaintances moreso than friends) in order to see my girlfriend for what i hoped would be the whole day. I picked her up, we went to eat lunch, and then we were planning on catching a movie. Before we got to the movie theater, she decided to call Nikita and Max (2 of my former "friends"). She told me she just wanted to see what they were doing. Once she does that, i hear her making plans with them rather than seeing the movie. I figured whatever, i would see her later on that day. I drop her off at Nikita's house, she tells me she will call in a couple hours and we would do something then. 4 hours go by, and it is already 11 PM, too late to do anything. I did not get mad or dissapointed in her. I had a feeling of complete indifference. THe problem was that I did not expect her to call. It was as if i had given up all hope of our relationship working anymore. I was depressed, truly depressed. Tuesday comes along, and she tells me that she wants to take a break. She told me that i am the greatest guy she has ever met, but she no longer feels the same way for me. She said she cares about me more than anyone else, but she cares about me more of as a friend. So we decided to take a 1 week break, starting tuesday. I talked to her a little bit yesterday, to ask her if she needed a week, she seemed pretty determined that she was happier without me, or at least that was what i got from her hanging out the day of our "break". She says that she is happy that she does not have a leash on her, and i do not understand why she thinks i am putting a leash on her. All I ask her is to spent a day with me alone every once in a while, otherwise she can hang out with whoever she wants whenever she wants. Now comes the whole problem with these friends. They continuously hit on her, pick her up, etc. I was talking toa friend of mine, who is also a friend of Nikita's, and he told me that Nikita thought the only reason that my gf was not dating Nikita right now was because she was still with me. He thinks that she likes him and wants to be with him, but didnt want to go against our relationship. From what my girlfriend has talked to me about, she has no interest in the guy. She is very well accustomed with my family, and talked to my brother on AIM. She even told him that Nikita has NOTHING on me, and i am a much better person and boyfriend. I want to beat the living shit out of Nikita right now, as well as most of my former friends. I have kind of a dillemma, should I talk to her at all during this "break"? I told her today that i had something to tell her, and asked her to talk to me when she gets off from school later tonight. She told me she had plans. When i asked what plans, she said she didnt know what plans, but she had them. I made plans with her for Sunday, I wanted to take her to a nearby canyon/park, and hang out with her for a few hours. So what should I do? Should I cancel those plans with her for sunday and just not talk to her until next tuesday? Or should I talk to her a lot, and say things that I hope will win her back? Also, I am going to a party on Sat Night. I dont know if I should take that as an opportunity to meet more girls, or to wait until tuesday. I would do anything to get her back, but I don't know how to go about doing it. And if I cant get her back, what the fuck do i do now? I have 4 months until I move out, and I will most likely have no girlfriend, no friends to be with, and nothing else. What the fuck am i supposed to do? I cant stand just sitting here. Everything I see reminds me of her. I look at my cat, and remember the names she used to call it. I play poker, and remember when she sat with me on the couch, watching me play poker, without a bad thought in her mind. I drive down the street, and see her favorite store. it sucks I know this is long. I cannot possibly give cliffs for all of this. Read it if you want to, dont if you dont. At least this helped me somewhat vent. EDIT: here is the conversation she had with my brother girlfriend: (10:30:48 PM): you know..every single person i talked to so far about this..has told me to dump vadim..and everyone has their own fucking reasons..either because hes a good guy and he deserves better..which he does..or because he sucks and i deserve better..or some shit like that...i just think that i need to be single for a while..because its high school...we were gonna have to break up anyway in three months....and the reason im taking a break is because i have to figure out what the hell i feel like...and you are not making it any better.....and i see where youre coming from..its just that ive had to listen to where everyone else is coming from as well... brother: (10:31:33 PM): strana sovyetov brother: (10:32:20 PM): who said that hs has to be about single life? brother: (10:32:36 PM): who said that anything has to be about single life? brother: (10:32:50 PM): personaly I think life is much better when you have some one you love, some one you are close with brother: (10:33:23 PM): the whole american ideal about single life, fucking everything in sight, flirtin with more.. I just dont get it. but that is just me girlfriend: (10:33:25 PM): it doesnt have to be abot single life..i just need to be single for a while....and dont tell me about love..i odnt even know what love is..im a fucking teenage girl for crying out loud.. brother: (10:33:56 PM): yeah and juliet was 14 years old brother: (10:34:18 PM): I think that the most in love I have ever been was when I was in 12th grade brother: (10:34:37 PM): my relationship with amye does not even come close girlfriend: (10:34:51 PM): yes..i noticed brother: (10:35:38 PM): you did not know me back then girlfriend: (10:36:37 PM): yes but im not blind now either girlfriend: (10:38:06 PM): jesus christ..im just a fucking kid..you know.. girlfriend: (10:38:36 PM): i odnt know what the big deal with this is anyway...i dont know why vadim cares about me so much. girlfriend: (10:39:07 PM): i odnt want him to care so much girlfriend: (10:40:02 PM): he deserves somebody better than me... girlfriend: (10:40:29 PM): and you think im just making shit up brother: (10:41:09 PM): why is that brother: (10:41:15 PM): why are you not good enough for him? girlfriend: (10:41:27 PM): because obbvioulsy im ahorrible fucking gf brother: (10:41:28 PM): you are smart, beautiull, you seem to like similar things brother: (10:41:42 PM): the only thing is that you are a little too flirtatious with everyone around you brother: (10:41:52 PM): though I think thats cause your mom is the same way brother: (10:42:16 PM): and you are not a kid brother: (10:42:18 PM): you are 17 brother: (10:42:33 PM): that is old enough for death penalty if you kill some one, etc brother: (10:42:46 PM): you have responsibilities, etc brother: (10:43:09 PM): you are only as old as you choose to act. and "oh I am just a kid" is the worst excuse in the world. you stop being a kid when you hit 15 imho girlfriend: (10:44:27 PM): i odnt think he undersatnds that my flirtatiosness doesnt mean anything..i dont give a flying fuck about most people..and i care about him...and i told him this before but he continued acting the same way..and now its too late...ok im not just a kid..but im not an adult either...i odnt think i want to be in a realtionship this serious...i odnt think i want to be in a relationship at all...and im fucked up in the head for that because vadim would never lie or cheat or not care about me..and yet.. girlfriend: (10:45:12 PM): yet were taking a break..because i nee dto figure out how i feel girlfriend: (10:45:54 PM): because i dont want to lead him on just for the hell of it..thats not fair to him brother: (10:46:21 PM): whether or not you mean anything by flirting with people, it still makes the people around you uncomfortable brother: (10:46:31 PM): you have to oblige when you bf asks for something simple like that girlfriend: (10:47:45 PM): why should i have to oblige..this isnt gonna matter in a year...and im just having fun..which he doesnt comprehend..which makes me either a bitch..or look like a bitch..which is why he deserves better brother: (10:48:41 PM): you wanted him to oblige not driking brother: (10:48:47 PM): remember hw adamant you were about that brother: (10:49:42 PM): this is a much bigger issue than drinking girlfriend: (10:49:53 PM): im sorry i think giving up alcohol is easier than giving up all the guy friends youve ever had brother: (10:50:05 PM): no I am not talking about guy riends brother: (10:50:14 PM): rather not givin them up brother: (10:50:24 PM): I am talking about not flirting with them, there is a difference girlfriend: (10:50:55 PM): but thats the kind of person i am..im supposed to change my whole self for a high school bf?..for him to dump me..and in the end get hurt.. girlfriend: (10:51:19 PM): that meant..im gonna end up being hurt brother: (10:52:11 PM): what is this convention that people seem to be about brother: (10:52:23 PM): how come everyone thinks that hs relationships are not important brother: (10:52:34 PM): it's the same thing with marriages these days brother: (10:52:39 PM): no one wants to work things out girlfriend: (10:53:20 PM): i dunno what to tell you man brother: (10:54:49 PM): enouh with these long statements brother: (10:54:52 PM): they are a pain to read girlfriend: (10:54:57 PM): lol girlfriend: (10:55:05 PM): alright your highness girlfriend: (10:55:29 PM): ill keep it short brother: (10:55:33 PM): I can see you typing for 2 hours then there is 3 pages worth of novel to read girlfriend: (10:55:55 PM): i know youre not accustomed o reading girlfriend: (10:55:59 PM): to* brother: (10:56:05 PM): awwww, now you are talking smack brother: (10:56:07 PM): girlfriend: (10:56:11 PM): girlfriend: (10:57:07 PM): but i dont know what to do..which is why im taking a break brother: (10:57:11 PM): I really thought that you two could make it work, even fter vadim went to college brother: (10:57:16 PM): all it would take is some effort girlfriend: (10:57:26 PM): no no long distance relationships brother: (10:57:31 PM): a couple I knew in hs ended up married brother: (10:57:38 PM): the most functioning relationship I ever knew girlfriend: (10:57:42 PM): i odnt want to date one guy and marry the same guy girlfriend: (10:58:02 PM): i owuld rather be sure that i founf..the right person. brother: (10:58:13 PM): my best friend is doing that brother: (10:58:28 PM): my friend alex did practically that girlfriend: (10:58:59 PM): and youre a great fuckng friend by the way..i love how you only start talking to me when your little brother: is in trouble.. brother: (10:59:11 PM): I thought you blocked me brother: (10:59:15 PM): I did not know you changed your name brother: (10:59:31 PM): I thought that vadim blocked me from your aim 2 years ago when the dicle debcle happened girlfriend: (10:59:32 PM): you could have asked..but noo..you didnt care before brother: (11:00:03 PM): I really thought I was blocked brother: (11:00:17 PM): I did not even have you in the buddy list untill this afternoon girlfriend: (11:00:25 PM): see girlfriend: (11:00:31 PM): my point exactly brother: (11:00:35 PM): rather I have the slipnogirl brother: (11:00:37 PM): the original girlfriend: (11:00:48 PM): that wasnt the original girlfriend: (11:00:59 PM): brother: (11:01:22 PM): well I have slipnotgirl5 girlfriend: (11:01:28 PM): ok brother: (11:01:36 PM): didnt know you moved to 2 girlfriend: (11:01:38 PM): alright.. brother: (11:02:52 PM): so sorry about that brother: (11:03:00 PM): I would have talked to you if I knew I was unblocked brother: (11:03:09 PM): and not like you were talking to me girlfriend: (11:03:45 PM): ok ok girlfriend: (11:04:57 PM): see this is what i get from people " if i were you, i wouldn't base my decision on what others think, i would think about what i want and what is best...btw, that includes this sentence" girlfriend: (11:05:10 PM): an dit gets worse girlfriend: (11:05:20 PM): i mean..everyone has an opinion about this girlfriend: (11:05:24 PM): its fucking crazy girlfriend: (11:05:28 PM): im like..leave me alone.. brother: (11:05:32 PM): soviet fucking union brother: (11:05:36 PM): it lives on girlfriend: (11:07:36 PM): theres even this little indian kid with glasses..wholl ask "did you break up with vadim"...im like..."what the fuck?!" brother: (11:07:48 PM): hahaha brother: (11:07:57 PM): hs rumors spread with light speed girlfriend: (11:08:52 PM): ye syes they do..i odnt even care anymore..its funny..and of course everyone thinks i like nikita..tahts aslo funny..because its not true brother: (11:14:32 PM): it deifnetly looks liek it brother: (11:14:42 PM): and there is a reason why everyone things that, you make it seem like it girlfriend: (11:15:43 PM): if something appears to be true it doesnt mean that it is.. brother: (11:15:57 PM): yeah but it still makes people think certain things girlfriend: (11:16:46 PM): that doesnt make people any less stupid girlfriend: (11:17:08 PM): and its really nobody elses business..but everyones making it that brother: (11:17:14 PM): yeah but you have to consider those around you and thier emotions brother: (11:17:28 PM): it is no one's business but yours and vadim girlfriend: (11:17:32 PM): exactly brother: (11:17:48 PM): and i he has a problem with it, then you have to deal with it girlfriend: (11:18:20 PM): yes except ive been dealing with it the whole time..witha ll my guy frineds that i no longer have because i never hung out with anyone because of vadim girlfriend: (11:21:48 PM): at least youre on his side..im glad somebody is..