Hey all - So, I'm trying to figure out how to get my girlfriend (of about 6 months) to do things in return when I go head over heals for her. I'm NOT talking about sex. She's waiting until marriage to have sex, and even though it can frustrating as hell, I totally respect her and her decision. I'm more or less talking about little things really. I feel that she can be very selfish I can't figure out a way to tell her this without being a complete dick. Now, I tend to do a lot for her. I spend a lot of money on her (iPod for birthday..dinner..dates..flowers..etc etc), I take her everywhere (she doesnt have a car) - Oh, BTW - I am 19 and she is 18 and I'm probably about 75% sure we will get married, just because she IS an amazing girl, but this part of her personality can be somewhat frustrating. Anyways, I do a lot for her, and I'm nothing but as nice as I can be when she complains to me about everything. I realize this is normal, but sometimes I get the vibe that she thinks HER life is more important than mine - to me this is a problem. I feel like I can't express myself around her with her trying to "One-Up" me. I.E. - Everything going on her life is 10x worse than anything going on in my life, etc etc. We have talked about this, but she doesn't seem to get it, and apparently more than one person has told her she does this. So I want to keep this short, and I'm just looking for some advice on how I can approach this. Please, no "dump her now" replies..that's NOT what I want to here, nor is it an option, ok? ok. Thanks Vag.