Discussion in 'On Topic' started by Kuwi, Apr 6, 2007.
you have to want to. walk up to random people and talk to them. dont be creepy though start out small like asking for the time. then yea.
start talking. Once you start talking, it's much harder to keep quiet.
Realize that everybody is shy in some way, everybody is insecure to an extent, even the people that you look at and envy because they appear to be so outgoing. They still have insecurities and are still somewhat shy, but the only difference between you and them is that they're willing to step past that while you're still somewhat afraid to take that step.
Same way you get over every fear. By facing it.
Now get back to your studies, and try to bring those Fs up to Ds
There are some good self help books and audio cd's for shyness, check Amazon or similar stores.
Are you a virgin?
Get a parttime job where you have to talk to people. Mall, retail, food service, something like that. After you talk to so many people everyday you will get to the point where talknig to poeple just isn't scarry at your job or not.
get a job waiting tables
or do something else what forces you to interact with people
Ask yourself, what has being shy ever gave you for reward? Zero , so trash it.
basically that's it. just keep talking to people and going up to them and you'll get over it
Open your mouth. it's not hard to!
That has nothing, absolutely nothing to do with getting over being shy.
Everybody is at least a little bit shy. Just get out there. The more you get out there and break the ice, the less shy you will be in the future.
Wasn't there an OTer somewhere around here that wrote a whole guide to not being shy?
It was a great help... you should do a search for it... I'm avless so no search function for me
He wrote a nice hefty amount about how to overcome shyness by steps. It was amazingly helpful. I'll see if I can find it.
This link might help:
It could. You have to think, if he is trying to chat with men or women. If it's the ladies then yes he will be a litte more quite if he is a virgin!
Ok dude... The answer is simple and effective. Exercise. Get toned, get some confidence, and people will flock to you. Its as simple as that.
no, thats not the answer to shyness thats the answer to getting people to approach you
[cliche] Be yourself [/cliche]
But seriously, just be yourself, and rejection or doing something that people won't necessarily like isn't the end of the world, you can't please everybody.
With that said, make sure that you're comfortable with your surroundings, and you'll be fine.
Usually I'm the type to take a desk job in the back but last year I tried being a receptionist. Dealing with new random people 8hrs a day forced me to break out of my shyness.
That's a good idea.
Go out, maybe a different town, and make a fool of yourself. Say and do the stupidest most lame, funny, corny things. Naturally people will be thinking this dude is entertaining me. That's when you just with them. Quiet people are creepy and loud people are annoying. Being shy makes you on the extreme left but if you have to go to the extreme right to find your happy medium then do it.
EVERY single person you see has their own problems that's consuming their thoughts. No stranger is going to give you a second thought tommorow.
Check out these e-books for building confidence.
The Book of Pook
Having a job that forced me to interact with people got me oer my shyness.