I was doing some research and noticed there have been several topics about lost sex drives and what not, due to birth control or other reasons.. I'm curious to see what other OTers do to keep the sex drives up/sex lives going for long periods of time. My S.O. of the past 1.5 years has noticed her interest in/sex drive has gone basically completely away in the past 6 months. She was on Ortho-Tricyclen or whatever for the year before it started then just basically one day it went away and it’s been close to non-existent since then. After discussing over and over, she is curious to see what others do to keep the sex drive going and the sex life interesting. She says it’s just basically too much work and not worth the effort anymore. Her other problem is that she cannot orgasm from sex alone, she believes so without that, its basically turned into oral sex with combinations and changes *toys, vibrators, blindfold, stuff like that*, but after so long, its just turns into repetitive and nothing really exciting anymore. How do the females that can't orgasm from sex keep their sex drive/sex life going without feeling it gets boring? She has recently switch birth control in the past 2 months, not due to sex drive, due to rising issues she started having with the other one. She is now on Yasmin and has seen no difference at all with the sex drive. She feels she isn't providing my necessary needs but never has the drive to actually do anything about it except every once in a while. So yeah, anyone out there with any input on how they keep their sex drives going is appreciated.