Discussion in 'On Topic' started by ady2glude707, Jan 3, 2008.
How do you approach someone you know was lying but still want to be friends?
What did they lie about?
They denied they did something (very elementary) but it bugs the heck outta me that they would lie about something sooo stupid.
well you need to be open and honest with the person. i like the x,y,z approach. you did x, which made me feel y, would've prefered if you did z.
it allows you to assert how you feel about the situation without attacking the person or making them defensive. if you want to be friends and overcome this transgression you have to talk about it and move past it. you do your part and if the person values the friendship, he/she will do his/her part.
the issue does not seem to be about what was denied (which appears to be minor), but the action itself, so everything should go well for you.
Well, if it's elementary, just go up and say whats on your mind. The simpler the problem the simpler it will be to solve it.
Thank you, I actually love this approach!
Hey, I know you lied about ___. Don't do that anymore.
We're still friends though, just cut that shit out.