LOVE How do you take a strong compliment?

yexy

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Mar 8, 2008
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Saskatchewan, Canada
I take compliments a little more graciously than I used to...now I just say "Thanks!" and smile. I used to get all flustered and deny them, which just made me seem awkward. Sometimes a compliment is flattery to get something, and I have no further thoughts about it other than being polite to them. :p
 

THoC

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Feb 5, 2007
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i usually giggle like a school girl and say thanks.

i only return compliments if i mean it... and doing it right after sounds fake as hell.
 

Falconer

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Jun 23, 2006
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Just say, "Thanks!!" and leave it?

Do you usually try to return compliments? Or does that feel fake, like a trade?

Do you know what feels fake?

Person: *compliment*

You: "Oh, thanks!"

Person: "No problem"

You: :squint:


"no problem" takes ALL the personalization out of it and makes it sound like it was a favor.

I just try to believe that they instinctively said "no problem" as a reflex to hearing "thanks" and didn't actually mean it in the favor way.

Kind of like:

Happy birthday!

You too! :o
 
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JohnJohnJohnson

JohnJohnJohnson

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Sep 8, 2004
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Do you know what feels fake?

Person: *compliment*

You: "Oh, thanks!"

Person: "No problem"

You: :squint:


"no problem" takes ALL the personalization out of it and makes it sound like it was a favor.

I just try to believe that they instinctively said "no problem" as a reflex to hearing "thanks" and didn't actually mean it in the favor way.

Kind of like:

Happy birthday!

You too! :o
How about "I'm happy to know that," instead of "Thanks?"

Maybe needs to be in person so that you can use tone of voice.
 

reminisce

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Jun 27, 2005
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i would say something like "i know i am, i say the same thing when i look in the mirror every day"
 

Dahlia

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Feb 12, 2008
27,405
Lexington, KY
I'm kinda dealing with this too, the bf is showering me with compliments, and I just had to tell him that I've never had someone say things things about me and I wasn't really sure how to properly react. :o I didn't want him to think that I didn't really appreciate what he was saying.
 
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JohnJohnJohnson

JohnJohnJohnson

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Sep 8, 2004
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I'm kinda dealing with this too, the bf is showering me with compliments, and I just had to tell him that I've never had someone say things things about me and I wasn't really sure how to properly react. :o I didn't want him to think that I didn't really appreciate what he was saying.
:)
 

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