Discussion in 'Lifestyle' started by cedric, May 14, 2004.
without outing myself or sounding like a dick? is there an effective way to do this?
Tell them you're taken already.
And if they ask who, just make up a name kind of like your boyfriend's, so...if you're ever asked you can be more consistent. It's hard to lie and be consistent...maybe lying isn't a good thing. Just leave it at you're already committed to somebody.
It works quite well.
Well....here's what I did.
A couple weeks ago, I went with a friend and my ex, out for dinner. We were sitting there and waiter comes up to me and goes: "ummmm...by any chance, are you taken?" I asked why. He said, that one of the female waitresses was very interested in me. My ex, got a big kick out of this.
I thanked him, but said, yes, I'm taken. (wishing I was).
So....in most cases, I always tell the other person, thank you, but I'm taken.
I just usually act like nothing was asked etc and let them go like that
I dunno, back in high school I used the "I'm not looking for a relationship right now" excuse.
You bastard! I gave you the best sex of your life and you were telling people that you weren't looking!
Okay I'm done.
No the sex was good.
I should have hit you up for child support when I had the chance though.
I feel like the only one not getting any sex around here.
Somebody sexer me.
Haven't gotten laid since before Spring Break
Haven't had any sort of play since December
Damn i feel sorry for all of you.....go out and meet some people...have some balls to say hello..
Haven't had any sort of play since...ever
I'm from virginia.
I got ya covered dude.
Only if you promise to be nice.
I'm always nice!
well, this thread certainly proves that gay men don't get sex all the time like the breeder boys think.
I was never propositioned, so I never had to deal with this. I was the chubby class clown, so people just watned to be my friend and nothing more.
Um...I just laugh. I don't know what else to say.
Actually, you are. You're a good guy from what I can tell, it's a shame you seem like you have been meeting the wrong people.
And regarding meeting the wrong people...you're not kidding.
See, I find myself in conflict these days... I have been getting some less frequently as of late, but it is not because I don't have the lack of options or prospects... I just want more these days. I've done the whole slutty casual sex thing; I've done the friends with benefits thing. But after doing the long term relationship thing--which effectively domesticated me and made me an upstanding queer--I don't really wanna settle for the other stuff. So now, I date... and date.... and am flirted with…. And flirt… But since I've been around the block so many damn times, I now see through the veil of games. At times, I get taken by the mood and just have to 'get low' for a minute and break someone off with a lil bit because I have needs/tensions that I sorta need to deal with (uhh, I am noticeably bitchier when experiencing dick withdraws)... But I'm more looking for someone who I can love, and have it reciprocated. I'm looking for a replacement soul mate. (Although the occasional intern or cable guy makes a tasty appetizer... I know not to get full 'til the main course arrives )
I'm kind of in the same boat. I never did the slutty, casual sex thing. I tried it earlier this year and it's just not me. I've had more, and want the more....back. I've done the friends with benefits thing as well, and unfortunately, that came close to disaster.
He wanted more and worships the ground I walk on, but....I just can't give him what he wants. He's a very handsome guy with an incredibly kind heart, but he's younger than I am, and although he's very mature for his age in some ways, he's very immature for his age in others. And in all honesty....a bit too prissy and feminine for my taste.
And like you, I see through the veil of games as well, and I have no patience with dealing with that bullshit. I'm a straightforward, honest type of guy and if I find out that I'm being dicked around with....watch out.
I'm looking for a replacement soul mate as well, but ideally, I want my old one back.