Let me start off with saying that neither of my parents are dead. I have had this fear lately about how I'm going to react when either one of my parents die. (Either when they die of old age or if they were to die from an accident of some sort) The mere thought of losing either one of them is devastating. I find that this is a touchy subject to bring up with either of them, but I have attempted it with my mom before. Her mother died when I was only 5, but her father is still alive. When I tried to ask her about how she dealt with her mother's death all she really responded with was: "Well, you try to do what that person would want you to do. You have to keep waking up every morning... life goes on." I honestly don't think that I am capable of such a thing. (My dad's mother died when I was about 8 years old. His father is still alive. I haven't asked him about how he handled his mom's death.) Not too long ago my dad was cleaning out our living room closet and happened to pull out a box filled with old photos from my mom's childhood and from even before she was born. I sat down and went through the box occasionally picking up an old photo of my mom and laughing with her about the photos of her as a child and teenager. My mom then joined me in digging through the photos and would every now and then pick up an old picture of her mother only to make a sad face and then quickly hide the photo beneath all the rest of the pictures. I wanted to ask her why she wouldn't just stop and choose to look at the photos, but I decided I should keep quiet. I imagine that it's still hard to think about her mother even years after her death. I can just picture myself going through old photos of my parents after they're gone and breaking down over the fact that they're gone forever. BTW, I'm atheist, so I believe that once a person dies... that's it. They're gone forever. All of their thoughts, ideas, dreams, memories, etc. are gone. ---------------------- Cliffs: Basically, how does a person keep waking up every day after one or both of their parents die?