Discussion in 'Vaginarium' started by killerZees, Feb 21, 2006.
If and when you mean it. There's no such thing as a "set time."
very true, with all my relationships I let them say it first. That way I'm safe.
Thats what I was pondering
That's what happened with me and my SO. I had felt it for a while, but I didn't know when I would actually say it (besides, actions speak louder than words.) Then the other night, she said it when we were saying goodbye to each other because she was going away for the week and I said it back. I meant it and she meant it so it was pretty cool. It was about 5 months.
Mind you, I wasn't thinking I was 'safe' by not saying it first, it was just that I didn't know if I even needed to say it. Heh, if that makes any sense.
always lett the chick say it 1st, if not you basically get pwned
Yeah, that too. A guy saying it first could come off as clingy. That's not to say it will be akward/bad in 100% of cases, though.
i said it first once. i was a dumbass. and really young.
I've said it first before.
Who gives a shit who says it's first. I'll say it if I feel like they won't get freaked the fuck out by it.
QFT. A lot of people here think that if you say it first that you're a faggot or whatnot. If you're focusing on the time and set date it's pretty much clear that you don't mean it anyways
if you know your partner wont feel pressured to say it back when they dont mean it, cool. but usuallly thats not the case.
id rather wait a year or so until they are ready, and mean it, then say it 6 months in and have them feel awkward.
A signifigant other shouldn't feel akward when you tell them how you feel
no, but it can make for an awkward situation. anyone who says the first time doing antying with an SO is easy, or without embarassment is full of shit.
its uncharted terratory. if it doesnt make you nervous, youre not with the right person.
i said it first to my chick....i knew she felt the same way and it would be dumb to play games....i say what i feel, always, cuz if you hold back you may regret it someday. (not just saying "i love you" but in all aspects of life)
let her say it 1st, otherwise you lose hand and you can't have that
i got BIG hand right now, btw
yeah, i got hand
You know, in some ways I feel the opposite of this, though. I would tend to think that the right person would make you feel like you can be comfortable and relaxed about saying/doing anything with them.
If you constantly feel like you have to step on pins and needles around your SO and are nervous that she's going to react badly to something about your words or actions (or feelings, etc.) that person isn't a lasting SO.
fuck, I say it way too early in all my relationships
Immediately after she lets you do her and her hot girlfriend at the same time.......and say it like you mean it, even if you have no strength left.
I agree 100%. That said, I've never said it and haven't felt that way, though I've had it said to me and had those awkward moments. Still that doesn't last long and I'd much rather be open and not playing games so I'm all for saying it whenever you feel it and you think it's the right time.
I prefer to wait until she says it first, as many guys say it so early as to appear clingy or needy, which can be a turn off.
In addition, I never say it in response to her saying it - that's like a greeting ("How are you?" followed by "fine, thanks.") which feels so insincere.
In fact, I never use "I love you" as a closing to a conversation, instead I say it when I mean it.
Seriously though, ya'll are thinking too much. What ever happened to inspiration?
haha, damn alot of pussies in here.
"I am going to let them say it first"
Thats not love if you have to wait for someone else to say it first. If you truly love someone, thier opinion of your love isn't what you seek. Yes you may fear making them a bit uneasy, but how can you really love someone if you don't even know how they would react to hearing it?
When you love someone you KNOW it. You want nothing more than to tell them, and everyone else you come across, and you KNOW when you say it, they are going to say it back.
Timelines are BS, just make sure you KNOW and arent just feeling some strong lust. It is easy to tell the difference if you want too, most people just blind themselves to the truth because lust can be such a strong physical feeling.
People who treat relationships like a big game disgust me.
Case in point.
My girl told me after 2 days that she loved me. We've been together ever since. That was 6 years ago.
Someone special told me about a week after dating, I thought it was really early, but I had the same feelings