Discussion in 'Vaginarium' started by xinster, Sep 16, 2006.
when you find out they are attracted to you?
for me, a good bit if I found them attractive in the first place
Depends on the person.... though I've never had anyone honestly tell me they're "attracted to me"
for me, it depends on how good looking/nice personality the guy is..if hes rude and arrogant i dont care if hes interesed..becasue IM not.
Well not quite.
But I haven't had a date in a year, so yea. At this point I know everything I'm "supposed" to know but I can't seem to pull it together in real life I need to catch a break here soon or imma lose my sanity.
a lot...especially if i think they are attractive/i like them
50% more attractive, as you were already halfway there on your own.*
*Please note that this initial level may be subject to fluctuation depending on how well you do or do not get to know the other person.
at the risk of sounding stupid.what is ketamine?
Technically? Anesthetic used for some surgical procedures. Recreationally? A halucinogen much like LSD.
And totally stupid to fuck around with.
Oh, and James, if that stuff fucks you up to the point you can't even deal with the people and things going on around you, that's a problem. Your input and judgement on this thread are totally worthless because they come from the perspective of someone who is not sober in situations where this comes up.
how many approaches are you doing?
I can count them so far on one hand.
One problem is, I can't seem to find environments conducive to it. More potential women seem to be found in loud as fuck bars/clubs, but I hate being in those places to begin with and anyway it's impossible to talk. Meanwhile the cool laidback settings are full of middle-aged people and girls attached at the hip to their boyfriends.
ed: I think where I am going tomorrow night - actually a couple of places I'm going tomorrow - may allow me to relax more and also be more workable environments for me.
approach everybody, not just HB's. find a wing. usually all environments are conducive to it ... don't wait for a three-set of HB7's standing around looking completely bored - yet friendly - to approach.
especially if there's a small chance of seeing any of these people again, you can have fun with this. view the whole thing as a video game? you don't suddenly quit playing a video game just b/c you lose a lot in the beginning.
Sometimes I do. I get fed up with failure pretty quickly. I am trying my best to keep my motivation up here. It's going to be really really hard, but I'm ready to make the change.
You said u can count your approaches on 1 hand. So at most that is 5 "failures." In reality, those are probably your only 5 successes, b/c you actually learned something.
Finding out someone finds me attractive does not make me think about them any differently. I do find a person more or less attractive after I get to know them. There was a guy I didnt think was cute at all and I got to know him and his personality, which made him good looking in my eyes. I can think a guy is really hot and if he is a complete asshole, I start to think he is ugly.
varies depending on your level of desperation
seriously though, i give more attention to those girls who give me attention. But part of my personality is that I love attention so that makes sense for me.
i don't think i'd find them more or less attractive. a girl in my hs was into me once. no difference. altho i did get rlly nervous around her.
if i like them then i will tend to like them more, but if i'm not into them i tend to just think less of them as a whole. very shallow, but it's not as if i can actually help it