Okay, my girlfriend told me that she was raped couple years back and ever since shes been scarred. I have known her for 11 years and we're both 21 years old now and started dating for 6 or so months now. We are in a long distance relationship of 2000 miles. Last week she had a dream that she was raped. she told me it was very real and since then she cannot get over it has been thinking about the dream (and probably the actual raped that occurred years back) and said that she currently is not in the mood for sex and doesnt know if she will be when i visit her at the end of march. She also doesnt feel safe most of the time, i asked her how safe does she feel on a normal basis and she responded with 55% (this is with carrying pepperspray around and looking around when walking in public places/to her car etc.) my question to you OT, is what can i do about how she is feeling and what can i do to help her? I have done the following things so far after the dream. i have told her i understand about us not having sex and i am totally cool with it and that i dont want her to feel as if she is obligated to have sex with me since we dont see each other that often. i also have told her that when shes ready to talk about the issue then i am all ears. i have told her i will support her in anyway i can, even if that means i dont have sex (not that much of a deal to me, sex comes and goes right?). i stay on the phone with her all night and just talk talk talk away until she falls asleep on me and i just stay on the phone even though shes sleeping (she feels safer this way, i dont know if this is a double edge sword). i text and call her often throughout each day so that she feels that i am there and think about her and stuff (anything else i can do?) again, i want to know what i can do about her being scarred from the rape and her dream of being raped? i feel as though she needs professional help, but do not know how i would go about convincing her to seek it. thanks OT for your time and thoughts into this, i know i wrote an essay.